Viewpoint: Will Family Issues Finally Get Addressed?

We are still the only developed nation without paid maternal or paternal leave, and our lack of a childcare system is a scandal

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Supporters of Elizabeth Warren cheer for her outside the Graham & Parks School in Cambridge, Mass., on Nov. 6, 2012

Women did a great deal for Democrats in this election. Their support cemented President Obama’s return to the White House, and their disgust with Republican extremism maintained and strengthened the party’s Senate majority.

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Now it’s time for the party to return the favor. Having successfully held the line on reproductive rights, staking out a strong position of support for women’s dignity and sexual self-determination, Democratic leaders now need to go further and start a new campaign to complete the most serious unfinished business of the modern women’s movement: bringing our institutions in line with the changed realities of contemporary family life.

Fewer than one-fourth of American families with children under age 15 now have a wage-earning dad and a stay-at-home mom. Yet most of our workplaces are still structured as though every employee had a wife at home to perform the full-time job of homemaking and caregiving. Our schools are open for ridiculously few hours each week and for a grossly inadequate number of days each year. High-quality, accessible and affordable care for young children is out of reach for all but the luckiest, and wealthiest, families. And after four decades of women’s steady progress into the workforce, virtually nothing has been done politically to address this situation, which imposes damaging  levels of stress on parents and children alike, at all levels of the income scale.

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Knowing all this, in 2008 candidate Obama (indeed, all the Democratic presidential candidates) ran for office with a well thought-out and specifically spelled-out platform of family-friendly policies. This year, despite the Democrats’ assiduous courting of women and the family-friendly language in the Democratic platform, such policies were all but absent from the political discussion. It would seem that our devastated economy — and our devastatingly fractious political environment — has made it impossible, even laughable to talk about new programs or initiatives that could cost serious money (in the case of early childhood education, for example) or might suppress job growth (as the business lobby has erroneously argued whenever talk of new family-friendly legislation is on the table).

But what the Great Recession has driven home so dramatically is that tough economic times are precisely when a lack of paid family and medical leave or paid sick days or access to decent child care can become disastrous. At times like these, staying home to take care of a sick relative can push a family dependent on each day’s wages — and a mother’s wages in particular — over the cliff. This difficult period has made action on the most basic package of family-friendly policies more urgent than ever.

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Republican obstructionism in the House, and the public’s antigovernment, antispending spirit generally, will guarantee that we won’t be seeing any massive social reforms of this type anytime soon. And yet, right away, there is a great deal of meaningful work that the Obama Administration and its allies on Capitol Hill and in the states can do to seed the terrain for change. The most enduringly destructive force keeping American workplaces stuck in the early 1960s has been the myth that issues like child care, elder care and work-life balance are private issues, dilemmas that stem from the individual choices or priorities of individual women — a necessary by-product, essentially, of the much vaunted freedom that American women have been fortunate enough to win in recent decades.

The Democrats, in an effort that stretches back well beyond this past election cycle, have successfully pushed back against precisely those sorts of fatalistic, American-exceptionalist messages in other areas they’ve deemed political priorities. They successfully made the case that wealth inequality is a result of decades of Republican policies and not just the way things have to be in our free-market society. They made thinning the ranks of our uninsured an issue of moral necessity — and showed how it could be done. Now the sort of well orchestrated outrage that brought an end to health insurance companies’ refusing coverage to people with pre-existing conditions should be applied to the fact that we are alone in the advanced, industrialized world in not offering paid leave to parents after the birth of a child (Australia, for long the other member of this exclusive club, started offering paid leave to new mothers and fathers in 2011) as well as to the fact that nearly 40% of our private-sector workers don’t have the right to paid sick days. Our lack of a system of decent care for young children needs to be talked about as the embarrassing scandal that it is, not as an outgrowth of the “privilege” of having it all.

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The non-care of our children, the cruel burden of responsibility that now rests on the shoulders of individual mothers (and fathers, for that matter) is every bit as urgent and moral an issue as reproductive rights. And it is an absolutely central issue to the flourishing of our economy. Candidate Obama knew this in 2008. It’s time to reconnect with that specific message of hope and change once again.


I just heard Judith Warner today on the Diane Rehm show months after she wrote this piece, and I applaud how she turned the discussion about the 50th anniversary of the Feminine Mystique into a discussion of what working parents need to get by--including child care.  She spoke of the new "maternal mystique" that developed about a decade ago, and I was in some ways like the women who got sentimental about being home with my new baby.  Now, I'm back in the workplace (and have been for years), but have limited myself to work-from-home jobs in part due to the high cost of child care.  There really are few good options for working parents.  Many schools do have after school programs, but unfortunately many are not high quality. Teachers don't care for the kids after school; young people just passing through take those jobs and often lack the skill to communicate with kids in a positive way.  The best programs offer enrichment activities after school that resemble what more affluent families seek out privately (sports, art, music, etc.).  I think there should be more funding for that kind of program, but also provisions made for all the teacher professional days that make the schedule so difficult for parents.  Employers also need to be more flexible about allowing parents to work from home when feasible.  The burden need not be on classroom teachers, but making better use of school space for other needs is a cost-effective solution.


I cannot agree with the first statement because schools are for educating children and young people.  They are NOT childcare facilities.  The idea that teachers should work a couple of extra hours a day so parents can work is both unrealistic and unenlightened and shows a complete lack of understanding about what teachers and education do..


""Yet most of our workplaces are still structured as though every employee had a wife at home to perform the full-time job of homemaking and caregiving. Our schools are open for ridiculously few hours each week and for a grossly inadequate number of days each year. High-quality, accessible and affordable care for young children is out of reach for all but the luckiest, and wealthiest, families." Excuse me? I beg to differ dear. One, the workplace may not have changed re: childcare consideration but your statement makes me think you live in Boston. Not a bad place, just savin'. "Ridiculously few hours?" What, schools should be open like hotels, 24/7 or something? What exactly is a good number? With after school activities, athletic and academic, I think 8-9 hours is fine given you can accomplish homework elsewhere. As far as "except for" "the luckiest and wealthiest" I also think affordable options are available, it all depends on what type of worker you are and stagnant wages.We should address your concerns but I think your statements are exaggerations. 

I'll skip your first opinion and say schools have enough trouble with budgets already, but there does seem to be debate re: taking more of the year to get kids to learn what they should know. Maybe part of it is the dumbing down of America, of which I could begin a novelization. I also think it's high time child care was addressed but probably by individual states, not by some heavy handed federal 'policy'. And I'm a public option person as far as health care goes - only because it's the best way to get an 800 # gorilla to take on the inflationary profit takers. Instead we reward the same crooks that price collude, etc. I don't know about "giving" child care away but a program to help the poor get some if they are progressing towards improving their lot may, and I emphasize may, be cost effective to society. Just up and creating another give away isn't going to float what with our current situation.

Time, it'd be useful if you could paste into your comments in a readable font. Too busy to research your tech support, etc. Good luck with that.


Families as we know them today, will be nonexistent tomorrow.


Thank you for writing this...will someone in power please do something.