The Backlash Against ‘I Am Adam Lanza’s Mother’

As Liza Long, author of "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," is critiqued, let's take a look at our long tradition of blaming moms

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A word of warning to any mother who writes about her child’s problems: you just might get blamed for them.

This lesson was made clear by the dramatic arc of a blog post by one Liza Long, who in describing the challenges of her seriously disturbed son garnered sympathy and praise for breaking the code of silence and shame around mental illness.

(MORE: ‘I Am Adam Lanza’s Mother’: When Parents Are Afraid)

Long’s post went viral, but soon one observer, Sarah Kendzior, took the time to read Long’s entire blog and found some not entirely sympathetic statements from the beleaguered mom, such as “I quit! Let the state take care of you and your compulsive inability to stop poking people.” Kendzior also noted that Long and her husband had been involved in a messy divorce, which, while not entirely germane to the question of how to best treat a mentally ill child, did not exactly put Long in a favorable light.

It was all somehow reminiscent of the days, not so long ago, when mothers of schizophrenic and autistic children were routinely blamed by the medical profession for their child’s illness. Labeled “refrigerator moms,” these women were said to have caused the social withdrawal of the child with their lack of maternal warmth and attention. We still don’t know nearly enough about Connecticut school shooter Adam Lanza’s psychiatric history, but we can be sure that his mother Nancy Lanza will, in this tradition, be scrutinized for what she did and didn’t do, should have or could have done.

Understanding this tendency, both in society and in ourselves, Long and Kendzior have already put their differences aside. In a joint statement, they proclaimed, “We are not interested in being part of a ‘mommy war.’ We are interested in opening a serious conversation on what can be done for families in need. Let’s work together and make our country better.”

474 comments
tanyakin
tanyakin

People simply don't understand mental disorders until they (or someone close to them) suffers from one.  Unfortunately there are too many people out there that lay blame on the parents.  Well, sometimes the parents can contribute, but sometimes its NOT the parents fault.  I thought "I am Adam Lanza's Mother" was very well written, and deep.  If there was more awareness and help available, mental illness could be controlled at least enough to avoid senseless killings.  I guess its easier for many people to continue pretending that mental illness isn't real.

DianaLenoreMiller
DianaLenoreMiller

I am Adam Lanza’s Mother” pissed me off a long time ago.At first I was drawn in, like a desperate working mother supporting her demented mother and mentally ill brother.I wanted to use “like a moth to a flame” but it is too trite, too cliché, too tired a trope to use in this instance.I have been supporting my family on and off since 2003.Mental illness runs deeper in us than coal in the Appalachians.I know mental illness.I know it better than the “anarchist soccer mom” could in her worst nightmares.I am writing in hopes that she realizes she should shut her mouth.

You are not Adam Lanza’s mother” sums up quite nicely some criticisms that I would have used as “Anarchist Soccer mom” tries to drug and humiliate and threaten her son into submission.Because she is too busy blogging, on the blogosphere.When was she planning on bringing up her children?Was she going to do it whilst inebriating them with antipsychotics?How then will they understand a word she says in the medication induced fog?Oh wait, if they do not understand she will have them incarcerated.I see.Was she ever aware that birth control was an option?Could she have used it?Why must we now be subjected to her insane spawn?

This piece elucidates the rationale behind the rhetoric.Long’s whines echo like my own mother’s hyperbole as she shuffles across the floor, bemoaning her life of self-induced oppression, always making the most of any situation, as long as it gets her a sympathetic ear and a way out of actual effort.

“Anarchist soccer mom” - what a wonderful moniker; this piece of detritus is an unemployed housewife trying to score off a national tragedy. I hope her ex-husband gets full custody.I hope her career as a “Freelance journalist” - code words for unemployed housewife, falls to pieces around her as she realizes that her very public lamentations are no use to those of us who have to accept our responsibility for our children.Did she divorce her attorney husband who provided her with the excellent lifestyle she repeatedly brags about because he found some sweet young trophy to take to parties or did he leave her because she was a useless piece of shit?


MBEZI1
MBEZI1

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bryanjturner
bryanjturner

I'm not knocking her parenting skills but I am knocking her leaving loaded guns laying within reach of some one she already knew had some serious problems; as far as I'm concerned she's responsible for those kids getting shot up.

aurorafisher64
aurorafisher64

I have a recommendation for anybody who wants one. Throw away your suit, cash in your chips, go to the website Traders Superstore and learn how to trade and then move to South East Asia and live a life that you never dreamed you could live. That's what I am doing now and very happy instead of being in fear all the time and stressed.

Ettina
Ettina

I don't know why people act like saying that parenting has caused a child's problem has to mean vilifying the parent. Parents are people, too, and they make mistakes. Some mistakes have an adverse impact on their children. Doesn't mean they're some kind of monster, just because they've made some mistakes.

The parents who in some way contributed to their child's issues are probably the ones in *most* need of sympathy and support. Many of them are struggling with their own mental health issues. Even if they aren't, the awareness of their own part to play in the child's issues is something they may need support coming to. And in many cases changing the parents' behavior can ameliorate or even cure these parenting-related issues, whereas the impact of modifying parental behavior is less (though not insignificant) if the cause had nothing to do with parenting.

Very few parents deliberately and callously harm their children. Most parents who harm their children do so unintentionally or unwillingly, and are just as committed to their child's welfare as competent parents are. We need to offer them support, not blame. But we also need to be honest, for the sake of the children.

MikeLand
MikeLand

Just abort Aspergers babies.  That's a start.

SouThao
SouThao

Adam needed to get his front teeth kicked in. He needed to have the living crap beat out of him. His mother needed to wear his ass out. Pain teaches people that it sucks to do something your not suppose to do. If we kicked in half of all the inmates teeth in the US of A then american would be a much better place. Everyone blames the father or mother, but we have no idea what was going on in that household. Regardless, the murdered will not return from the grave.

KenMayberg
KenMayberg

I don't think the problem of how Adam's mother raised him is as much of an issue as to why she exposed someone like this to semi automatic weapons.  

ClydeCorri
ClydeCorri

every shooter has a doctor and a pill. so why are we talking about guns and laws? a father stabs his 6 kids and stands outside blood soaked on the sidewalk to watch the house burn down. it wasn't Knives that did it..it was the Medications. my Brother has MS. he was on pills and he attacked my mother,. we cut the pills and now he doesn't attack anyone. he laughs and talks to himself. but he isn't attacking anyone.  for all the people dying in our country from Celebretes to Veterans to children. we need to look at the SSRI pills. Diet Pills, stop smoking pills, Depresssion pills. etc etc .. that are causing harm to people.

cfblakeman
cfblakeman

There is only one issue with Ms. Long's writing - she exposed her son to the world. She could have so easily done all of this without using her real name, and no one would be questioning her parenting.  

How sad that Ms. Long did not take the opportunity to apologize for exposing her son's very private issues to the entire world. She isn't blamed for his problems. He makes his own choices. She is blamed for one of the most irresponsible things a mother could ever do - expose her child to world wide judgement, and for judging him herself in public to all his friends, family and community. 

Kendzior's response isn't nearly as good as this one - A MUCH better response - You Are Not the Killer’s Mother and Your Kid's Privacy Matters http://tinyurl.com/d8jl3el

ThinkingWoman
ThinkingWoman

This woman blaming seems to be widely prevalent and has gone viral. One guy even blamed Pelsoi and Boxer for the shooting - the two most powerful women members of the Senate and the House.

Because of these kind of unfair judgments and blaming sometimes women who do need helps as mothers or anybody else don't get it, and women who do need some confrontation are not getting it either. As always patriarchal societies blame women and mothers for everything, they blame women activists and feminists for many problems and they spew their hatred of women, now growing in all countries where women are standing up and fighting patriarchy, without thought or basic decency.

You want to know how many emails I received threatening to kill me, rape me and torture me for writing about women's issues and gender issues twenty years ago? Nothing much has changed.

BigPaws12
BigPaws12

She's not comparing her son to a killer, she's afraid because she's intelligent, and she understands that 1) his behavior fits a type that is more likely (statistically) to be a Lanza-type. 2) She's not throwing him under the paparazzi bus, she's sacrificing her privacy in the hope that people like her and her son get more help. She is baring her honesty. She doesn't hate her son. Every parent of even typical children has their frustrations. That she is brave enough to share hers makes her LESS likely to be abusive or hateful because she can be expressive. People that throw blame around are ignorant and part of the problem. If you blame Mommy, then it's simply her fault, the community can simply hate her and her child both rather than support them - and she alone should do something about it. Only it's not her fault and when she can't get buy successfully and her kid kills your innocent kid in school, college, in the mall, at a fast food restaurant, well then you can blame yourself for choosing to do nothing but lay the blame. As the parent of a child with a disorder of most types your insurance runs out, Special Ed is a tiring uphill battle that frequently results in nothing in the way of progress (as Ms Long said, daily babysitting), there are few if any restrictive State institutions left, and so people that were otherwise harmless are sent to Juv. Detention or jail, where they learn to be VERY harmful. There's nothing left int he way of social or public supports for a child once they're an adult. In this case, Adam Lanza WAS an adult, his mother bore no more responsibility for him or his life or the consequences of his actions. Here's a community full of people who knew this boy, but somehow let him be invisible. Not just his mother, his community. It's shameful. 


momshelper123
momshelper123

Please check out my blog at http://lanza-epidemic-my-son-s-story.webnode.com/. I have started the blog in search of advice from others in a similar situation. I want to create a place where an on-going conversation can take place amongst parents with children who have neurologicaldisorders. All suggestions, stories, and comments welcome. I hope to find out how better to help my son, through listening to other parent'ssuccesses as well as failures.

Ulumur
Ulumur

What, no backlash over the fact that she is exploiting her child, publicly comparing him to a killer? People with ASD are not retarded, illiterate, or lacking feelings. Her son has certainly read the article, and if he was suicidal before, I hate to think what state of mind he's in now.But hey, mom got her 15 minutes of fame.

iwillnotsubmittoyou
iwillnotsubmittoyou

I call bs. She was called on her obvious hatred for her son by many autistic people who are tired of being abused by their parents and seen as a burden. Guess what? We do have feelings, we can talk, and we're pissed off. Autistics are highly likely to be murdered by their own parents. We know how unvalued we are. WE KNOW. You're feeling sorry for the wrong people!

sookiela
sookiela

Thank you, blessed and holy mother Liza Long, for offering up your child for sacrifice. 

Thank you for projecting the hatred the public feel for Adam Lanza onto your own child so that we now have violent mental illness, something new to hate.

Thank you for inextricably, erroneously, dangerously marrying mental illness with violence.

Thank you for creating a newer, more modern, Satanic Ritual Abuse-like hysteria for the new millennium. 

Thank you for reminding us that children do not deserve either privacy or dignity.

Thank you for everything, Liza Long.

nickr
nickr

It does not matter how much ppl will try to analyze her struggles "to reach" her son , to deal with his problems etc. One thing remains the fact is how DUMB , SELFISH and IGNORANT that woman had to be to continue having all the gun arsenal in her house knowing that her son is off the rocker. "Oh know we did think he ll hurt anyone.. Oh no he was the quite type" that is the problem!!!!! You just DONT KNOW so logical thing is remove those guns out of his reach JUST IN CASE. BUT no Nancy Lanza was "prepper" ...scared of the doomsday.. I dont give a flying f...ck about her doomsday ideas but the fact that she even took her deranged son the driving range shows how STUPID and ignorant she was. Take him to the golf range for christ sake NOT a gun range. I am speechless

SalveRegina
SalveRegina

What I found sad about her article was she used psychiatric treatment as a threat to her son, a mental health facility is no longer the "looney bin" of the past. As long as society shuns the mentally ill and stigmatizes them,people will go untreated. And as a mother of someone with a devastating mental illness I know what I am talking about. Through a class I took provided by NAMI (national alliance of the mentally ill} I learned mental illness is a sickness which CAN be treated, just as a physical illness can be. Any parents out there who are struggling, don't listen to friends or family who may mean very well, yet haven't lived through it. You need to seek out your own help and NAMI is the best start. Also, please don't feel guilty or afraid to have you son or daughter hospitalized, there is absoulutly no shame in it. I know the world will never understand what me and my son have been through. He will be labled forever by the many names people refer to mentally ill people. But we can take it. And though I found this woman's story somewhat foolish maybe it may help someone. I hope....

RobinMcLean
RobinMcLean

There's a lot more to the Lanza story then mainstream press is devolving. Search for the report from a former FBI agent and there is now FB messages from the his mother on line. Do your research.You are clever enough. When you drug children and give them subliminal suggestion this is how the story unfolds or go back to experiments on children is the US using LSD. It is simply called mind control in a violent society. Read about the Olson case still coming to light.

leefield
leefield

This affluent Mom had max access to health care. Her friend was the psychologist at Sandy Hook. Hmmm wonder what they talked about?  Adam specifically targeted her. for maybe two reasons. One being her Mom's friend, but I speculate, he was enraged from his mental health plan/care. For those whom are not aware, mental health field is aflame with money. The Psychiatrist just prescribe and unceasing array of drugs and dosages as this routine produces results (usually long term bad) and maximum income. They are working for big pharma. It's an unholy alliance....yes evil. The U.S. is experiencing an epidemic of mental health disease. BTW the prescription drugs do not cure anything. They are horribly unsafe, unhealthy, and long term destroy mental health making the patient dependent for life. When patients go off their meds and become dangerous, don't think as often sold per Psychiatrist as reveled mental illness. Conversely, the withdrawal produces horrible psychotic conditions as the brain is rapidly changing it's chemistry that was screwed up by the drugs. The brain will always attempt to chemically balance even with drugs. This biological process forever requires changing meds and dosages...to keep brain off balance. This can not be sustained and sooner or later the patient will stupefy or attempt to abandon the therapy realizing the futility of such health care. Some interesting stats I've read; U.S. consumes more psychotic meds than rest of world together and we are suffering more. This is akin to global warming excuses whereupon if the condition improves they claim credit and if the condition worsens they can claim accurate prognosis. Maybe like Public Ed where spending ever more money is pushed to bad solutions in hope of change. Check out the documentary "Mad in America".  Also, my nephew has Asperger's Syndrome, now in his 40's doing well. It's not a mental disease with chronic need of psychotic meds. He was fortunate to avoid the drug popularity nowadays. Anything throwing brain chemistry off is playing with dynamite.

dgdoesstuff
dgdoesstuff

@MikeLand Unfortunately, that doesn't work.

It can't be diagnosed soon enough. Down Syndrome can be diagnosed, and is therefore aborted by some--not all.  Autism doesn't show up until around 2 years old. 

bars421
bars421

You wouldn't say that if your child had Aspergers, Would you?

rdscott
rdscott

@MikeLand The list of people who would likely never have existed had your genocidal suggestion been implemented from the dawn of time include some of humanity's greatest thinkers, scientists, engineers, philosophers, musicians, and humanitarians. My father has Asperger Syndrome and has lived a long, full, satisfying, productive life, a 40 year marriage, and a full career in the public sector.

SivanSuresh
SivanSuresh

@SouThao Just like you torture,kill dogs and cats, run over trucks on a dying child rather than taking her to hospital, mother brutally abusing her children posted on YouTube and Facebook. Horrible human rights records, 7-8 years old prostitutes working for few dollars for survival. I can see how evolved your Asian society is. I am from Asia too.

Ettina
Ettina

@SouThao The research doesn't back you up. Most people who end up in jail do so because they don't learn well from punishment. Plus, crime rates have been going *down* during the same time period that corporal punishment has been removed from schools and spanking has become controversial. So either there's no relationship between physical punishment, or it actually makes crime rates higher.

sandifjm
sandifjm

@SouThao So your solution to curbing violence, is to inflict more violence? That's genius. Why didn't anyone think of that before? 

chili
chili

@ClydeCorri SO TRUE!!!  I am living proof.  I am an Army Veteran who has PTSD, depression and anxiety.  I have also always had mild Aspberger's symptoms.  I have always been able to function in the real world, although depression has often made life a struggle, always brought on by severe stress.  When I began having medical problems, the doctors at the VA were more than anxious to diagnose the mental problems, and began dosing me with horrific drugs that took me from occasional thoughts of my own death... to wanting to kill other people.  I finally refused to take their psychotic inducing meds, found a GP that began treating my medical issues and the pain I have because of them, and guess what, no more suicidal or homicidal problems whatsoever.  The medical community has decided it is better to tell you that you have depression, than to ask and treat you for the reasons for the depression.  They kept telling me my depression would ease if I took their meds, when the truth was that until I was no longer in constant pain, my depression was not going anywhere.  People, stop buying into this psychotropic medication BS.  Perhaps some do require that type of medication, but from my own experience, I can tell you that those drugs are making people WORSE, and the drug companies need to be stopped from dispensing these drugs like vitamin pills.

drgroovy
drgroovy

@ThinkingWoman  

A patriarchal society?  The U.S.??!  hahahahahahahaha

You are clearly a deluded moronic feminazi who has never traveled the world, and who has never seen what true patriarchal societies look like.  If you believe that the emasculated matriarchal society of the U.S. is patriarchal, you are either clinically insane, or just stupid.

housr57
housr57

One of the most intelligent responses in this chain- There are so many pieces to this puzzle but political correctness indoctrination, main streaming and other forms of lets pretend all differences are the same, just perpetuates an inability to focus on real mental health care.  I have known so many intelligent women dealing with hopeless situations.  And by the way how dare someone focus on a pending divorce as a means to diminish the mother- really who didnt know that mental health challenges frequently tear families apart.  Let's please start having good old fashion call things what they are and try getting some of the peices together that will benefit the ill and the community of mankind.

drgroovy
drgroovy

@BigPaws12  

The sad reality is that most of the perpetrators of heinous acts such as this one, are all on psychotropic medications.  Those medications have been proven to COMMONLY cause antisocial, or even violent behavior, as well as suicidal ideation, homocidal ideation, etc.

We live in a country where the mental health of so many of our children is severely compromised because of cultural problems that are reflected in our diets.  We eat vast quantities of sugar, artificial sweeteners, one of which is an extreme excitotoxin that completely screws your brain (aspartame), MSG (also a potent excitotoxin that reeks havoc on your brain), as well as unhealthy fats.  Our brains are severely depleted of omega-3 fatty acids, which has a devastating effect on our brains.  Then, we wonder why everyone in this country is so depressed, angry, violent, aggressive, etc.  In particular, look at lower-class Americans.  Look at what they eat.  They eat the worse diets in America, and their brains are completely screwed as a result.  The consequences of their diets are seen in the poverty cycle.  Loss of brain power results in decreased productivity, which results in lower income, which results in the purchase of the cheapest foods available (refined food products), which results in a weaker brain, which results in decreased productivity which results in . . . .  etc.

We have a nation full of sheep that have been mentally programmed to eat McDonald's, and to believe 100% of the nonsense promoted by the MDs.  Remember this:  your MD received ZERO training in nutrition in med school.  That means that he/she has no knowledge of the consequences of your crap diet, and how it effects the brain.  This is why they will write you a script for Paxil long before they will ever recommend that you greatly increase your omega-3 intake first, BEFORE trying those horrible psychotropic drugs.  Once you're on them, try getting off of them.  GOOD LUCK.  And wait until you see how suicidal and/or homocidal you become as you try to wean yourself off of it.

Guns are NOT the problem.  Mothers are NOT the problem, except for their nutritional ignorance.  Our institutions that promote unhealthy eating and the mass use of psychotropics ARE the problem.  We need to place the blame where it belongs.

Remember this:  The #1 industry in the world is petroleum.  It is a $1.3 trillion business, yearly.  #2 is pharmaceuticals.  Pharmaceuticals account for $1.2 trillion worth of sales per year, world-wide.  Can anyone compare the absolute necessity of oil and gasoline, to the pharmaceutical industry, where most drugs are eventually pulled off of the market because they are either ineffective and/or dangerous??  Yet, annual sales of pharmaceuticals virtually equals sales of the prime mover of modern civilization.  Clearly, the people of the world have been brainwashed into taking mass quantities of pills that they absolutely do NOT need.

Apart from hundreds of thousands of unnecessary American deaths each year from the adverse affects of these medications (#3 cause of death in America, as a matter of fact), we also see tragedies such as this one, resulting from the unintended side effects of these drugs.

It's time for America to wake up to the reality of the situation and its true cause, instead of ranting on and on about other NON-causes and NON-ISSUES, that only serve to clutter the discussion with red herrings and nonsense.  

The cause is clear, and its solution is clear.


Ulumur
Ulumur

@BigPaws12 

All this sympathy for the mother and none for the child just proves my point. You may be a parent of a child with special needs (as am I), but I am an adult with ASD. Does even the possibility of having your parenting criticized bother you? If that hurts, maybe you should think about how it feels to be compared to a mass murderer by one's teacher in class, called subhuman by psychiatrists, have an 80% chance of being unemployed, and have your parents publicly state that they want to kill you (as at least one parent of an aspie has done). That is to say, maybe you should use that fantastic neurotypical empathy of yours. This sort of discussion of us, by parents and doctors, over our heads, is not helping, and even if it's well intended, it only adds fuel to the fires of hatred and fear.

pradalvr
pradalvr

I stumbled on to this person Youtube account when looking up Fanapt .. sadly his thoughts and what he talks about do not make sense

lil
lil

@iwillnotsubmittoyou Hello! I just wanted to say that, at least for me, I've always seen autistic people as wonders of nature. Most of "you" see the world in very different ways and for that you  are not stuck in the meaningless lives that "common" ppl live. 
Until very recently all kind of abnormal behavior was condemn and feared, instead of studied (in a good way), jeez even women that spoke what the society didn't want to hear would end up in a surgery table. 
So, don't worry. The world is changing and every day we find new and exciting forms of intelligence, communication, joy, etc. :) We just need to be patient, maybe relax a little bit more, I see Americans as very volatile and worrying too much, that messes up things even worse. 

One day the differences won't matter as long as we're happy.

BelindaBaggins
BelindaBaggins

@SalveRegina NAMI is paid for by the drug companies.  Have you ever tried those drugs?  They can turn even a normal person who isn't violent into someone thinking about suicide or homicide.

RealRepub
RealRepub

@leefield Thank you.  My nephew's on the autism spectrum somewhere; he's probably tried every drug they could throw at you, and resents the fact that this is the way "medicine" treats people, without having much of an idea yet of what's causing the disease, what long term effects of their drugs are, or even how they "work" when they do.

RobBlack
RobBlack

@leefield  Are you referring to the mother this article is about?   Psychiatrists are working for big pharma?  A old accusation not based in fact.  Prescription drugs rarely cure, they typically treat the symptoms.  Many mental problems are treated according to the degree of impairment.  Where one my do fine without psychotropic intervention, others may not.  As with any drug the choice is made based on the benefits outweighing the risk.    This article isn't about "This Adam Kid" 

BobHobby
BobHobby

@chili @ClydeCorri  thanks for your service, and I'm glad you haven't become a victim of these prescription suicide industry. .. the whole thing stinks. Hemp is illegal in America but Obama borrows money from China to buy hemp from Romania which our  Law Enforcement then use to wage war on Hemp Farmers in America and South America... i am convinced there are elements in the American Government,.. Infiltration forces if you will.. that seek only to harm us. 

chejoubert
chejoubert

@drgroovy @ThinkingWoman  You're using psychiatric terms to refer to political situations. Using the words 'emasculated' to mean something on the order of  - 'disenfranchised.'  So when you say - 'emasculaed matriarchal' do you mean men are disenfranchised but women aren't - sort of a roundabout way of saying in this country women rule men. Astonishingly, this statement would make many people think you're the one who's clinically insane, and by coincidence - that's the very term you raised. FYI - the % rule the other 99%, because this country is not a 'relationship', but a political entity. 

sandifjm
sandifjm

@drgroovy @ThinkingWoman The mere act of using the term "feminazi" renders anything else that you have to say completely and totally irrelevant.  By virtually every key metric, whether it's median income, access to healthcare, employment prospects, poverty - men continue to do better than women.  Not to mention that women are more likely to be victims of sexual violence or abuse, often make less money than their male counterparts for doing the same work, and encounter barriers to advancement in the workplace.  Only sad, insecure men who long to return to the "glory days" of the 1950s would argue that the United States is in anyway "matriarchal". And just for the record, I'm a man that is neither "emasculated" or a "feminazi", but I'm certainly not stupid enough to deny the privileges that I enjoy as a result of my gender.

peacenotwar
peacenotwar

@drgroovy You just proved @ThinkingWoman 's point. Even if you do not agree with her statements, there is no need to write "a deluded moronic feminazi"among the many things you wrote. There are more civilized ways to write your opposing views instead. 

BigPaws12
BigPaws12

@Rachelweepingforherchildren @leefield There's no medication to CURE it. There ARE medications that are used quite successfully to inhibit aggressive, repetitive and impulsive behaviors concordantly with speech and occupational therapies. 

BelindaBaggins
BelindaBaggins

@Rachelweepingforherchildren @leefield 

That's wrong.  Risperdal is prescribed for autism.  YES an anti-psychotic even though the autistics prescribed that drug were not psychotic or violent.  Adderall is prescribed as well and then for the social anxiety paxil and then for depression an anti-depressant.  Look at how many cases of these children put on these drugs commit suicide or homicide/suicide.  

 Aspergers isn't something that causes violence.  I think some of these children are being falsely diagnosed with aspergers.  The brother stated he had a personality disorder..that is not autism.  However, if you look at his 6th grade photo, he looks normal. Big smile and happy.  Something happened after sixth grade to make his eyes bulge, his face look sunken in and his pupils really big.  DRUGS.

 Chances are Adam wasn't as loved as his brother and his parents thought of him as not normal enough for them.  They couldn't be bothered to cherish his strengths like his intelligence so they drugged him.

leefield
leefield

Also, remember reading recent times they were attempting to disband the Asperger name tag as it's to soft and general. Meaning does not meet requirements of separate definitive disease. Sorry, that's all I remember.

leefield
leefield

My nephew was extremely rambunctious like this Adam kid at younger age...ritalin would be the gateway drug?

Ettina
Ettina

@LauraOroborus Antipsychotics are not a treatment for autism. They can be a treatment for aggression and severe tantrums, which some autistic kids have. Personally, I think they should be used as a last resort, since most autistic kids have clear triggers (sensory overload, need for routine, inability to communicate needs, etc) which could be effectively managed to reduce tantrums and aggression, without the dangerous side effects that antipsychotics can have.

dybbuk4640
dybbuk4640

so what is the organic basis for all this terminology?

Rachelweepingforherchildren
Rachelweepingforherchildren

@LauraOroborus 

For behavioral symptoms.  Autism is not a disease or mental illness.  There is no cure and no medication that changes it.  There are medications that have at times proven to lessen the symptoms sometimes associated with the condition.  These symptoms however are greatly variable and dependent upon the experience of each individual.

LauraOroborus
LauraOroborus

@Rachelweepingforherchildren @leefield Not true...some antipsychotics are helpful...risperidone, for one. My son is autistic and has taken it for 7 years now. It has been a God send.

Rachelweepingforherchildren
Rachelweepingforherchildren

@leefield 

Perhaps your nephew had a co-morbid condition.  There is no pharmaceutical prescribed for the autistic spectrum.  No, not Ritalin.