When IVF Couples Regret Conceiving Twins

They have a right to be disappointed—and afraid of the huge life change ahead of them

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When a Colorado couple underwent in vitro fertilization late last year in the hopes of conceiving a sister for their preschooler son, they were shocked when the wife became pregnant with twin boys. But instead of stifling their apprehensions, they went public with his-and-her rants on the parenting website Babble. Under the pseudonym Albert Garland, the husband wrote, “To say we’re excited would be an exaggeration. More truthfully, we’re pissed. And terrified, and angry, and guilty, and regretful … As horrible as this might sound, we found ourselves wishing these twins away … This time around, we’re counting down — not like expected parents but like cancer patients with only months to live.”

“In my mind I had done nothing less than ruin our family,” the wife added. “The twins are coming fast, and I don’t feel a sense of joy … the new me is expecting the worst.”

Predictably, their Babble bitching sessions sparked an uproar, with readers contributing nearly 1,000 comments — many calling their views “disgusting” and “heartless” and writing that “they don’t deserve those babies.” There was the sense that these parents were inexcusably naive about IVF, a process that they should have known results in twins 20% to 30% of the time, and that the world of infertility was one in which any pregnancy, especially an IVF one, should be considered a blessing.

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But the couple’s flair for the dramatic notwithstanding, their posts aren’t outrageous. They’re refreshing. This husband and wife had the courage to voice the true fears and worries that many parents think about but don’t feel welcome to express, much less post publicly for the world to see. They have a right to be disappointed, and perhaps the more they come to terms with that, the better they can get mentally prepared for the huge life change ahead of them.

In fact, once we learn a little more about the “Garlands,” their reactions seem wholly rational. The family lives in a one-bedroom apartment. After the birth of their son three years ago, the couple suffered through the baby’s horrendous colic (and ongoing sleep and behavior problems) and the mother’s postpartum depression. Then came a difficult twin pregnancy. “I can’t care for my son the way I used to: I can’t get on the floor, I can’t bend over, I can’t pick him up, I can’t run after him. The low iron and gestational diabetes only add to the fatigue … Now my husband is doing everything and running himself into the ground,” she writes. Did I mention that they live in a one-bedroom apartment?

Mr. and Mrs. Garland are legitimately concerned about how their minds, health and marriage will survive more upheaval. “My wife and I know better than to think that life with three children is going to be perfect … Our fear is not the new parent fear of the unknown. It’s the smart, informed fear of the known,” the father writes. He’s right to be nervous. Raising newborn twins is hard. Raising three boys under 5 is hard. Thankfully, amid all the online condemnation, some readers offered commiseration and tips to survive the shock.

The Garland twins are probably already here. (The father wrote his piece in April, when the boys were four months along, and the mother wrote hers in June, seven months into the pregnancy. Their posts enjoyed a new round of publicity this week.) So we don’t know the rest of the story. But we should congratulate their parents for their brutal honesty. They’ve opened the door for other parents-to-be, especially those who used IVF who could benefit from talking about their feelings, even the uglier ones. By being so bluntly realistic about it from the get-go, they’ll probably be more prepared than other couples who uncritically coo about their “bundles of joy” and then feel blindsided by the challenges they never saw coming.

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Nica
Nica

If this was not the outcome they wanted, then it didn't have to be. They made a series of bad decisions and now are crying about it... WHAT? I can think of 10 people in my immediate circle that would be overjoyed to welcome twins. Shame on this couple on so many levels and shame on their RE if s/he didn't discuss all possible outcomes.

Speaking from my own experiences, I conceived my first through IVF and was blessed to have three wonderful cryopreserved embryos left after getting pregnant with my son. My husband and I knew we wanted a second, but were quite lukewarm on the idea of twins. We spoke to our RE (imagine that!) and he laid it out for us -- if we transferred 2 embryos, there was an approximate 30% chance of a twin pregnancy, far too high for us. On the other hand, I had a lesser chance of getting pregnant if we transferred 1 embryo and there was still an approximate 1% chance of that embryo dividing into identical twins. The whole scenario was complicated by the fact that I was not a good candidate for further IVF cycles and these three remaining embryos were our last chance without getting an egg donor involved, which is something neither of us wanted.

Though my RE did not think our decision to transfer the single embryo was the best, he respected our wishes. That single embryo is now our 2 year old son and our family is now complete. My husband and I couldn't be happier with the outcome. 

That said, if that single embryo had divided into identical twins, then they would also have been welcomed with great joy and open hearts! We wanted to minimize our chance of twins, but were well aware that there is ALWAYS a chance of multiple births - natural or assisted conception.

Hermione
Hermione

Why all the negativity from these parents?  Did somebody force them into conceiving twins through IVF?  It is ashame that these parents did not take the time to 'get real' with their feelings BEFORE conceiving.

victoria123
victoria123

I feel bad for those babies when they get older if they ever find out their parents didn't want both of them. I understand that they are struggling and having twins will be exceptionally difficult (I was a nanny for special needs twin preschool boys I know how hard it is) however they choose to undergo fertility treatments that have a pretty high chance of multiples. If they didn't have the ability and the resources to handle more than one baby they should have considered holding off  as painful as that may be. Now that they are now on their way/already there to having three children they should consider themselves grateful despite the challenges that they face many couples struggle and are unable to have any children and I am sure that plenty of them would happily trade lives with this young couple.


nicole.monday
nicole.monday

I'm all for refreshing honesty when it comes to parenting - people should be able to express their "darker" moments of parenthood (which everyone has). This might actually help prevent things from being bottled up and getting out of hand (No one can reach out and help if they don't know how dark it is). 

BUT, I don't quite understand it in this case. Why have IVF when they're in this difficult situation in the first place? That doesn't sound like a good idea to me. Also the house situation doesn't quite add up: A one-bedroomed flat + 1 child already + another (never mind twins) = ?

IVF_MD
IVF_MD

Why didn't they opt to transfer a single embryo? The use of CGH screening and single embryo transfer can provide success rates of 50-60% with a risk of identical twins around 1% due to embryo splitting. The possibility of multiple births is an important part of the pre-IVF informed consent discussion. Were they listening?

francene
francene

If they are crammed into a one bedroom apartment and struggled the first time around when their baby proved colicky, what the heck were they thinking undergoing IVF??? These two are immature, self-absorbed, boutique baby seekers who want to be able to define and create every aspect of their lives so that it includes no inconvenience, discomfort or challenge.  Well, hey, guess what.....that aint life on this earth!  Now get over it, grow up and be the parents those boys deserve and need!

eugene1
eugene1

If they are physically struggling at the time of attempted IVF, perhaps they are not meant to be parents again so soon. IVF is wonderful and suppose to help potential loving parents who are unable to have babies for one reason or another. However, surely before they embark on their IVF journey, they have had received informed consent and are aware of all the potential outcomes including multiples and both boys and girls ? ? ?  What self-centred people they are to use IVF and wishing for a specific gender and number of babies (without any underlying medical indications and need) - "Hoping to conceive a sister for their pre-school son" ???  More like its for themselves and now they are upset it did not "turn out right". Feel sorry for the twins and the older child.

jbcaine
jbcaine

Shame on this couple for not being thankful for this double blessing!  I am a mother of twin boys that are now 7 years old!  I went through 3 years of fertility treatments and suffered multiple miscarriages before I successfully carried my babies!  99.9999999% of parents going through fertility treatments are thankful to get pregnant with twins!  If you are going through treatments, its because you have difficulty getting pregnant!  If this couple are already struggling, I don't understand why they chose to have another baby.  Especially knowing the high risk of multiples with fertility treatments!  The babies would be better off with parents that want BOTH of them!  There are so many parents that want babies and can't have them!  Sounds like 2 self-involved and thoughtless people that don't deserve to be parents. Thoroughly disgusted!!!

Parentingtip2go
Parentingtip2go

Congratulate them for their brutal honesty?  Not in a million years.  I read both stories, and there was nothing refreshing about either.  Two self serving bitter people bring innocent lives into the world and already at a disadvantage, of "not only did we want only one of you, but we wanted you to be a girl!"  So very sad for these precious little beings.

pop_cherry12
pop_cherry12

Wow... So irresponsible. They can still put their baby to adoption. There's a good chance they find much better parents than them. 

 

pendragon05
pendragon05

No sympathy from me. IVF is not natural and should be banned. If you cannot make babies naturally, then there is likely a very good reason for it.

omg
omg

Absolutely no sympathy from me.  As the person below stated, why would they have signed up for another single baby given their circumstances.  Maybe they are honest, but they ridiculous, they have no business taking further parenting on - it is hard - they know that, too bad if they got more they gambled for - hundreds of thousands would be grateful for any baby, and there's no doubt they were counseled and made aware of possible outcomes.  Ridiculous!  Also mentioned below, adoption would be a good result for these unappreciated babies.

Smiling1809
Smiling1809

They have a one bedroom and wanted 2 kids? What difference does one more make? making the choice to have 2 children in a one bedroom isn't exactly ideal. Maybe they could make the master into the kid's rooms and get a nice big loft bed for them in the living room?

SupermansWife410
SupermansWife410

My 30 year old husband (who was a cancer patient) would have given anything for these babies but unfortunately he died 3 months ago without ever knowing the joys of being a father

Bohemiantraveler
Bohemiantraveler

WIth the money they spent on IVF, they should have moved to a bigger apartment or a house. 

They do need to learn to be happy with those twins, or else PLEASE give them up for adoption.

betsywhy
betsywhy

Why on earth would you go through the process of IVF (and how could you afford it) if you live in a 1 bedroom apartment.  These people make me sick when there are so many others desperate for children.  Shame on them.  I pity their children.

marina56
marina56

How did they afford IVF if they can't afford more than a one bedroom apartment? And under what rock have they been living if they truly didn't know that IVF results in a high rate of multiple births? It seems to me that they wanted EXACTLY what they wanted - a little girl - and anything else was destined to be a disappointment. These people are too self absorbed and stupid to be decent parents to anyone.

sj4iy
sj4iy

I don't get why, if you live in a one bedroom apartment and say you don't have the room, you are doing IVF to have a second child.  Life throws unexpected curveballs to everyone...that's why it's called "Life" and not "Predictability".  My husband and I had a very nice living situation, and decided to have a child...after which, I became deathly ill and found out that the pregnancy and birth had caused two chronic diseases that I now have to live with everyday.  Guess what?  I manage it, and even had a second child.  I get more tired than I used to, and I'm not able to do everything I want to...but I love life, and I love my children, and if I had to give them up to be perfectly healthy again, I would never do it.

GraceGrace
GraceGrace

Why did they use ivf and wanted more kids if they weren't prepared? How selfish and STUPID. Poor kids.

NicoleMargarete
NicoleMargarete

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SupermansWife410
SupermansWife410

@pendragon05 My husband died 3 months...The ONLY way I can get pregnant with HIS baby is through IVF.

But why is it our responsibility to adopt "hard to place" children? Why don't you adopt one?

What if something were wrong with you? Would you not have treatment or even surgery to fix it?

jbcaine
jbcaine

@pendragon05  

Shame on you!  I tried for years to get pregnant!  Had multiple miscarriages and finally was blessed with my twin boys who are now 7 years old!  I went through fertility treatments multiple times!  Just because a persons body does not function properly, does not mean that they should not have children!  My boys are my life and I am thankful every day for them and the joy they bring to me and my husband and our family! I do not have sympathy for this couple complaining about getting pregnant with twins! They should not have taken the risk if they were unable to take on the double blessing that they have received!  Most parents going through fertility treatments are over-joyed to get pregnant, not regret it!  Shame on you for your comments towards people like me! And shame on this couple for their attitudes and comments!

SuperDad'sWife
SuperDad'sWife

@pendragon05 Whoa. That is an outrageous claim. You should be ashamed. My husband survived testicular cancer at the age of 21 and is now unable to have children. He is the kindest, most loving person I know and he adores children. Unbelievable. 

Smiling1809
Smiling1809

@Bohemiantraveler Maybe they should have learned to be happy with one. There are many plus sides. Having one isn't the end of the world for the child or parents. As they get older, it's particularly good.

pendragon05
pendragon05

jbcaine,  SuperDad'sWife sorry don't care what you think  - Nature has ways of controlling severe human overpopulation problems, and our KoolAide drinking baby rabid society isn't helping any. Why not adopt a child if you really love children? There are so many needy and hard to place children in this country while people think it was too important to have the "experience" of giving birth (that so-called "experience" is way overrated, too). Unfortunately, lusting for a child, as the "Garlands" did, often ends up in devastating consequences - usually for the child. Forget about unconditional love because it just does not exist. And I am known for calling out people on being liars any time they ever tell me they loved their parents unconditionally when they were children.

simplyadorable
simplyadorable

@pendragon05  Your logic is severely flawed. First and foremost, overpopulation has nothing to do with IVF. It's not the parents who are conceiving 2 kids who are contributing most abundantly to world's drastic population growth but people who are naturally fertile. As in, young uneducated teenagers who are popping out their 4th kid before they even hit 21. Then there are women with limited to no access to birth control in underdeveloped and developing countries, so your whole argument that it's somehow nature's way of keeping population in control is total BS. Not to mention, if you knew even the most basics about reproduction, you would know that nature favors genetic diversity over everything else. In other words, nature wants us to pop out as many kids as possible to increase genetic diversity over everything else... yes, even overpopulation! Second, the idea that somehow we should only grant those naturally capable of reproducing the right to do so, goes against everything we do as modern human beings. I'm assuming with that logic, you are also against any form of modern medicine or vaccinations because they actually save lives and lead to "overpopulation" right? And you're also for killing off babies born with any severe genetic abnormalities or life-threatening anomalies because we shouldn't give people who wouldn't be able to "naturally" survive a chance to do so, right? Where is the humanity in any of that? I can't change how you feel and I know that your foolish opinion will triumph over anything logical I have just said to you but I can at least hope that you will momentarily reconsider why your argument is so severely flawed before you go back into your shell of ignorance.