Fit Pride Isn’t ‘Hate Speech’

Despite its bullying, the "fat acceptance" movement is bad for our health and bad for kids

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Will a “real woman” please stand up? In the age of Photoshop, plastic surgery and celebrity idolatry, it seems women are constantly debating what is considered a “real” woman. And, as I found out recently when I posted a picture of myself looking fit and healthy in workout clothes with my three sons (playfully asking the question “What’s your excuse?”), apparently I don’t count. My voice as an apparently nonreal woman counts so little, in fact, that Facebook recently banned me temporarily from the site — shutting down my account for almost three days for supposedly violating the site’s terms of service — after a number of users flagged a post of mine venting about the damaging culture of fat acceptance. After my post had garnered thousands of likes, comments and shares, these users apparently reported what I wrote as “hate speech.”

While I accept Facebook’s explanation that the post was pulled down automatically, as can happen when users flag content as offensive, it’s amazing to me that a company that hosts so much conversation and debate isn’t far more proactive about making sure that controversial views don’t get squelched on its network. It’s also amazing, frankly, that it took such a long time to get reinstated. Most disturbing, however, is that we now apparently live in a culture where other people deliberately try to — and feel entitled to — censor speech they dislike by labeling it hateful.

Have we really created a society so sensitive and weak that we cry “hate speech” whenever someone points out the fine line we’re walking as a nation by promoting a healthy body image above actual health? Has the growing movement promoting “fat acceptance” and even “fat pride” gone so far that now we need a countervailing movement promoting “fit pride”?

We may just. Apparently, in America today, the only “real” women are the overweight. And, of course, to some extent that’s true. Despite the media’s fixation on models and thin actresses, the majority of Americans do not reflect the extreme thinness promoted in ads, magazines and TV shows. America is overwhelmingly overweight. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), over two-thirds of Americans above the age of 20 are overweight or obese. Roughly 18% of kids are obese and 30% are overweight, according to the CDC. Our obesity crisis accounts for 21% of our health care spending, according to a study in the Journal of Health Economics — roughly $190 billion a year. If we continue at our pace, by 2030 nearly half of Americans will be obese.

(MORE: The Fat-Acceptance Movement)

But we’re still prone to denial.

A study published recently in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology found that 1 in 4 overweight women thinks she’s thin, an understandable misperception given that being overweight has become so common. We’ve encouraged acceptance of this new normal by literally making room for our heavier culture. Often termed “vanity sizing,” what was once a “size 14” 30 years ago is now a “size 8.” You will find fashions accommodating young girls with large midsections at any clothing store. Popular chain stores that don’t accommodate are criticized and find themselves the targets of campaigns by fat-acceptance advocates — as was the case for Abercrombie & Fitch earlier this year.

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Overweight women are now standing up (often half-naked) in defiance, exclaiming: “I have a beautiful ‘curvy’ body” and “This is what a real woman looks like.” These campaigns send a message that being overweight is normal. Well, plenty of things are normal that shouldn’t be. It is normal to eat fast food. It is normal to play video games all day. It is normal to not exercise. It is normal to have a family member with diabetes. It is normal to gain more than the recommended 35 lb. (16 kg) during pregnancy.

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Being overweight is now normal; being at a healthy weight is not. Does one’s body define how healthy someone is? Not always — but in most circumstances, yes. New research just out in the Annals of Internal Medicine casts serious doubt on those often touted studies saying you can be fit and fat; according to the study, as summarized by TIME, “metabolically healthy obese participants had a higher risk of dying earlier or having heart-related problems than those who were normal weight and also metabolically healthy.”

Constant campaigns promoting self-acceptance and embracing one’s curves are placing the psychological need for a positive body image ahead of health. When you normalize a problem you create complacency. After all, you can’t fix a problem if you don’t see a problem.

Sure, the majority of women in America are now overweight or obese, but does that make the women who are of healthy weight not as “real” as the women whose images are strewn around in body-acceptance campaigns?

Have we accepted this new normal to the point that being a healthy everyday individual shatters the self-images of overweight people who think it’s impossible to become fit without Photoshop, plastic surgery or a personal trainer?

(MORE: You Can’t Be Fit and Fat)

A new minority of healthy people are stepping out of the shadows and showing that you can be successful by following the Surgeon General’s guidelines: exercising daily, eating nutritious meals and gaining no more than the recommended pregnancy weight. We shouldn’t be condemned. Demonstrating possibilities in one’s personal health should not be defined as promoting bullying, fat shaming or gloating.

However, in this new normal, being healthy is shocking. We’ve become a trophy-for-each-kid kind of culture. We don’t want to applaud those who follow the rules, do their homework and achieve their personal goals. It’s easier to say someone is a bad parent or a bad person (as people said about me after I posted my picture) than it is to take personal responsibility for why you choose not to make health a priority.

When people shame healthy and fit individuals for perpetuating an “unattainable” body image, they’re also dismissing the real health benefits that fit bodies represent. After all, healthy people breed healthy children, and healthy children create a healthier future. Why shouldn’t that be celebrated?

So, let’s set the record straight. There’s the normal, overweight woman. There’s the photoshopped fake woman — and then there’s an array of real women.

I, Maria Kang, am a real woman — and I’ve stood up. It’s not hate speech to be fit and proud.

Kang is a freelance writer and founder of Fitness Without Borders. She blogs at MariaKang.com. The views expressed are solely her own.

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393 comments
richiewww
richiewww

piss the fats off and they send you death threats. Which is hilarious, how would the tubby old disgraces even catch a fit person?


The fatty acceptance movement, thought ostensibly a ham planet feminazi movement, is actually orchestrated behind the scenes by the Centre for consumer freedom which is a Washington based lobby for fast food, meat, tobacco and alcohol.  This is a modern day torches of freedom.

AngieRana
AngieRana

I need to post a photo of my bank account with the caption "what's your excuse"? I guess this is the new era of normal. I guess I should also talk about how having a beautiful huge multimillion dollar house is something to brag about and term everyone else who can't afford it as lazy and having no excuse to be in the situation they're in. But no, I think we as a society are better off not bragging about the things we happen to focus on the most and get good at, whether that be fitness, making money, having a great education, etc.

TerryPurdue
TerryPurdue

I know the situation that got Maria kicked off of fb and it was a vicious woman, Crystal who took issue with Maria's assessment of a campaign that Crystal was involved in

If we keep lying to ourselves about obesity and saying "My kids are overweight and I'm concerned" and still buying junk, then you are dooming your kid to a life of obesity and that's awful

What are the real fat shamers? Our joints when they ache because of all the pressure, our heart when its walls thicken, high blood pressure, diabetes, liver failure can even happen because of obesity...it's not just drunks who get cirrhosis...I was SHOCKED to hear that, amputations of limbs due to diabetes 


Or we can eat a more plant based diet and sweat it out in the gym for an hour...I don't think that's too extreme

DanaWalker
DanaWalker

This might have been the best article that Ive read in a while. I get so tired of people praising bodies that are unhealthy in size and weight and its honestly disgusting. I dont have anything against overweight people but I often feel as though they make up excuses as to why they cant lose weight instead of just committing to a goal of working out and eating healthy. It is cool to accept yourself and embrace your size, but when you bash others for being choosing to eat healthy and maintain a healthy size for their body versus being overweight/obese/thick whatever you want to call it, thats when it is wrong because they are doing what they are supposed to do. Arent we supposed to live a healthy, active lifestyle??There should be NO Justifications to being obese/overweightt/thick period.

playeraaa
playeraaa

Yet facebook didn't do anything for teenager Amanda Todd at all who was being actively persecuted by a ring of pedophiles even after she killed herself. Hitting the report button on messages urging her to kill herself led to no action from Facebook.


Here are Facebook's only dumb priorities:

Not insulting a LARGE group of customers, your actions turned off a lot of customers 

Permabanning accounts with fake names because they can't resell their personal data


Facebook is junk. All they care about is making money, make no mistake.

Liveyourlife
Liveyourlife

First off I can say that I was fit and I now try to keep a healthy lifestyle, however, I can say that it made me more shallow in the past. For instance I would only date girls who were fit, had small abs, etc. the girls were like this too in the gym. Wouldn't even give some guys that were pretty awesome a chance just because they didn't work out ALL THE TIME and would eat pizza, but these guys also lived a healthy, happy life. I am 35 and I can honestly say that being fit wasn't always fun for me. Even as a guy I felt that pressure that I had to stay fit and had to look good all the time. I felt like I couldn't even eat one slice of pizza. I knew the girls at my gym would freak if they ate carbs and such, but my mind wasn't healthy. I mean I would always judge too many people and all, if my girlfriends didn't "look" like how I wanted, I would dump them. As I grew older, I realized that all I wanted was a girl who was nice, great personality, didn't obsess over her weight, could have fun, actually eat something, yes she ate pizza or ice cream sometimes. But she also would eat other healthy foods as well and loved to be outdoors and liked to run just for the fun of it, not to stay in shape or please others. And get this, she actually was a size 12, but she looked nice and took care of her body. Not by working out all the time to stay in shape. She would just have fun with life and didn't worry about things. She knew she was healthy and happy. I guess what I'm trying to say is people judge too quickly and any one who doesn't seem "fit" isn't fit to you. Well I can say that i am guilty of doing that to so many people, because people don't have to do hardcore workouts, or at the gym daily to be fit. I think it's good to be healthy on the inside as well as spiritually, yes it could look "hot" on the outside, but when it comes down to it as you're ready to settle down and have a wife and be happy. Looks really won't matter anymore, you loved them then and you'll still love them now. I love my wife. She's beautiful, happy, and healthy, even if she's not thin like almost all the girls. She was overall HEALTHY and she showed it mentally as well.

SamIam3
SamIam3

Queer Kissing Is Disgusting...  How Is That Hate Speech???

NaomiJChambers
NaomiJChambers

@SamIam3 Faulty Analogy. Your comment about homosexual kissing has no direct relevance to this topic. 

joeblaze
joeblaze

Thanks, Maria Kang.  With my partner having our second child in in a few weeks, I am glad I can point her in the direction of your motivational poster.  Then if she hasn't lost all the baby weight AND gotten to be as skinny and attractive as you (lose another 10-15lbs below her starting weight) in 2 years - I don't have to feel bad about leaving her.  Since obviously it's because she has too many excuses and why would I want to be with something who makes excuses.  Your no apology tactics will go over really well during the divorce as it's obviously the best thing to do to help her be healthy and fit.  Accepting her would be wrong as I have learned from this article.  You make it easier for men to have the young attractive women we obviously deserve.  And it's totally not sexist because it comes from a woman, right?  

playeraaa
playeraaa

@NaomiJChambers @joeblaze She is not even aiming at his wife personally. It's a broad message inviting many people to get fit. It's not like she knows his wife and told her in person she has no excuse. When I get stuff like that I ask myself: does this apply to me? Have I tried everything? Do I even care? Does this person have any credentials?

NaomiJChambers
NaomiJChambers

@joeblaze Maria never told you to leave your wife if she cannot lose the weight. 


You are making a choice to strawman her argument. What she is saying, is that your wife should not invent any excuses to justify obesity. 



louise34
louise34

anyone that is overweight and saying they can't lose the weight for whatever reason is using excuses, period!

gallivanter
gallivanter

Ms Kang is right that her comments are not at the level of hate speech, but I see nothing in her defensively penned article that shows she has an accurate understanding of weight issues in America today. Perhaps she should read some of the articles in TIme itself, such as the headline showing how nearly half of Americans live paycheck to paycheck and that one in five households exist upon a financial precipice.  Ms. Kang might learn that glib statements about how easy it is for everyone to understand good nutrition and to exercise shows a ignorance of the reality of lives lived by much of this overweight demographic. Nutrition and exercise are low down on the list when people are working two or more jobs, caring for children or elderly family members and still barely making the rent. The proportion of overweight or obese in America correlates directly with socio-economic status. Perhaps if Ms. Kang were to travel to some of the "most overweight" states and to see what healthy food offerings there are (or aren't) and what poor standard of living people exist in, she would understand that nobody is okay with being overweight, or happy or just too lazy to fix it.

If Ms. Kang wishes to comment upon weight issues in America she needs to educate herself on the causation and challenges that people she is criticizing face. Her personal experience of being formerly chubby, losing weight and getting fit with the means, support and time to do so isn't enough to make her an authority on this challenging and complex issue.

Joceythompson
Joceythompson

Excuse me, but I work a full time job that exceeds your 40hours and I am a full time single mom of two boys, we live paycheck to paycheck and I still MAKE time to be fit. Going for a walk with your kids doesn't cost any money last time I checked. Not having the money to be fit is just another poor excuse justifying obesity. @gallivanter

CherylTocco
CherylTocco

@gallivanter My Husband and I  live on limited retirement.   We have found cooking healthy meals at home, and eating  less fast food has been far less expensive.  I have an overweight friend, a 'normal' woman, who constantly puts down fit people to feel better about herself.  She has diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, etc.    She will whine because she 'can't lose weight but spends 5 times as much money as we do on food because she eats out.  The average meal in a restaurant is approximately four times what is considered by nutritionists a healthy, well-balanced meal.    It's cheaper to eat healthy, and it has nothing to do  with socio-economic status.  It's just easier to over-eat and veg out in front of the TV.

AprilDamascoHarkness
AprilDamascoHarkness

This Maria chic won lots of bikini contest and pageants before her pregnancies so the chic was ALREADY beautiful. And I've seen her before pics when she was "bigger" lol. She still looked great. I am not impressed. Now if she was 300 lbs and did that...yeah, but the woman was a model prior. She knows what to do and how to do it. She wasn't ignorant. So yes, not impressed one iota. 





LolaMontez2
LolaMontez2

Where to begin, Maria? First off, your brag photo was in very poor taste. Not your fit body -- that's fine, I am glad you lost the baby weight from THREE pregnancies in less than three years so dramatically. 


But bragging about it to others is tasteless. Let me clue you in: it's better for people to come to YOU and say "omigod, you look wonderful!" rather than trolling for compliments, complete with photos of you in revealing bikinis.


Asking people "what's your excuse" is cruel and insensitive, too -- would you post a picture to a poor person, of your own Lexus and McMansion and ask THEM "what's your excuse (for not having these luxuries)"????


That YOU could lose baby weight does NOT mean another person with lifelong obesity issues (and perhaps contributing health problems like hypothyroidism) can achieve what you did. 


For starters, it is highly unlikely that you were EVER obese or had an over-eating issue. You were PREGNANT, not fat. Your pregnancy resolved with the birth of your children. That is not remotely the same as lifelong obesity -- perhaps being in the womb of a diabetic mothers, or overfed as a child (factors beyond anyone's control). Once a person is ALREADY FAT, there is very little that medical science -- OR exercise OR strenuous dieting -- can do to change that.


Obesity has been researched and studied more than cancer or heart disease. Believe me, the scientists who figure out a "cure" or even a halfway successful treatment, would be billionaires overnight. Yet the preponderance of research shows that obesity is intractable -- that it does NOT respond to starvation dieting (not for long!) and it does not respond to exercise, nor to a combination of the two. Sure you can lose some weight temporarily, but the fat cells remain and they will cue your metabolism to slow down in response to less food and more activity.


This is SCIENCE, Maria -- not just opinion from people who hate fatties, or guys who have humiliated their fat ex-girlfriends, or have their own eating disorders (anorexia, dysmorphia, orthorexia, bulimia, etc.). In short: stop bragging on yourself. It's cheap and tasteless. (BTW: no I am not fat and never have been.)

Tanya_x93
Tanya_x93

@LolaMontez2Whatever you're sprouting out is not Science. Obesity is the leading cause for all medical issues on going within America. It's quite sad really because it's something that can be treated so easily (I am not saying every single obese person got there because of over-eating but 2/3 has) So what's the 2/3 of the the population's excuse for not eating healthier or exercising. Now, this is the part where you're probably going to sprout out the usual 'But I can't afford a gym and all these healthy foods'. If you can afford to pay $10 for fast food or pay $10 for ready made meals, that isn't anyone;s problem but yours. I feel no pity for obese people.

What you seem to be missing out of Maria's whole speech is that she is looking after her body through exercise, eating healthy and generally looking after it even through pregnancy. You don't know her whole eating history you can't make the assumption that 'It is highly unlikely that you were EVER obese or had an over-eating issue'. I agree 100% with Maria and it's people like you deluded by such things like Health At Every Size. I will never fall into my old routine of over-eating ever again. I was 235lbs (Nice and unhealthy) and now I'm 130lbs. And woah, how shocking my I didnt ' lose some weight temporarily' nor have my' fat cells remained to  cue my metabolism to slow down in response to less food and more activity'. It's a lifestyle choice and you must be willing to put in the effort.


The main idea for HAES was to advocate heatlhy bodies and not for obese women to flaunt their bodies saying how proud they are of it. Because being obese or even overweight is NOT healthy and there is a simple 'cure'. Eat healthy and Exercise.



NaomiJChambers
NaomiJChambers

@LolaMontez2 She has every right to brag about her accomplishments. She should be proud of it. 


And you sound like a Bitter, angry woman - jealous of Maria. 



VincentHui
VincentHui

Holy SHXT THIS WOMAN SPOKE THE TRUTH!!  People can only "play victim" and complain about everyone else for so long.  Failure acceptance is what failed America.  C+ is good?  No, it only meant you learned half of what you were supposed to.  An "A" is required!  It is YOUR fault for being fat, not everyone else'.  And surely not the people that TELL you to be healthy.  Wake up America.

DanM
DanM

Maria Kang's opinion is rational and informed. Her nutrition and exercise habits are an example of the lifestyle choices that should be practiced by the average person. One lifestyle aspect that must change is the spectator sports culture. On any Sunday from September to January, millions of Americans will immobilize themselves while watching NFL games. They will consume excessive amounts of high-calorie foods and transform themselves into the perfect customers for erectile dysfunction and cholesterol drugs - both of which are heavily advertised during football games. A one-hour walk on a beautiful autumn day is usually not a consideration for these folks. They always choose sedentary activities that are unnatural and damaging. Go for a walk ? Forget it. They can't miss that 4th and 1 play.


Responsible adults like Maria Kang should be congratulated and praised for choosing sensible nutrition and exercise habits.

GabrielBelthir
GabrielBelthir

I am a big person. However, this is not me telling my story. Just thought I'd start there.


"Fat-shaming" isn't okay. Making someone turn to eating disorders and botched surgeries because they can't even get a decent job without having their bodies and lives criticized is not okay.


"Fit-shaming" is also not okay. Turning a person who's chosen to make health a priority into a perceived psycho is not okay.


"Gym-shaming" is a thing, believe it or not. Fit people and fat people both being shamed because they don't have a sculpted body is not okay. 


The truth is, people, we as human beings are ALWAYS going to obsess over our bodies. It's part of our natural programming to present the most viable possible genetic material. And those norms always change, though this is the first time in history it's backed up by science.


We over-generalize in many ways. A fat person will tell you they don't know what they're doing wrong. (Ye Gods, I certainly don't.) I'm certain there's things I should be doing, but I can point to years in my life where I did those things...and nothing changed. There are a thousand reasons that overweight/obese people exist, each different for each body. A fit person will tell you that each body is different, requiring a different and customized routine to achieve fitness. 


So. Bigger folk, stop it. We know we're unhealthy. Either we chose it, or we didn't. Embrace the right part of the "fat acceptance" and realize that it's okay to be uncomfortable with where you are - it's NOT okay to hate yourself. Love yourself enough to know what you want out of life and pursue it.


Fit folk, stop it. We also know you've somehow found it in yourself to be fit and trim and healthy. Allow me to be the first to celebrate that. Stop trying to take sides and start helping. Don't be angry with fat-acceptance people. They want to stop seeing the terrible consequences of humankind's body obsession. Fitness has to be both mental and physical - otherwise you end up with 'fit' people who end up with dysmorphia or another terrifying place in their heads.


This isn't about sides. It's about the fact that the one word these all have in common is 'shame'. Shame is not okay. In any direction. Stop it.

maggie_b
maggie_b

 For someone who is supposedly NOT fat-shaming, you are still writing in a fat-shaming way. 


For example your assumption that all fat people ... eat fast food; play video games all day; do not exercise; and have diabetes is a perfect example of fat-stereotyping which is part of fat-shaming.

Then there was the suggestion that body image acceptance isn't as important as a healthy body. Why should they be mutually exclusive? Why can't people be healthy both physically and emotionally? Why should people be made to feel ashamed because they are a larger size than you? I have a friend who is of Samoan/Maori heritage and despite her healthy diet, weight and lifestyle, is still quite a large girl. She is built that way because of her genetic heritage. And yet she has been body-shamed for so long now that she is uncomfortable weighing sleeveless clothing or anything slightly revealing. Even were she to become anorexic, she would never be a small girl, because of her bone structure. But that's the kind of pressure that's out there in society - that's why people are pushing for body/fat acceptance.

And c'mon Maria, at least be honest, you didn't "playfully ask the question “What’s your excuse?” There was no playfulness in that. Be honest enough to admit that it was outright attempt at shaming and humiliation. You are deliberately trying to down-play this and make out you are the poor, little victim.


On the one hand you say you were 'playfully' asking the question, and then you contradict yourself later by suggesting that your views are controversial (Facebook). So which is it? Playful or controversial?


If you were really honest with yourself (and everyone else) Maria, you would admit this was simply about your pride:
- First it was pride in your body and your fitness. - Then your pride was hurt because people were offended at your comments and wanted them removed. - And you are still being prideful here because you are now trying to make out that you are the victim, and will not accept that it's ok for people to feel comfortable with their bodies and that we all don't have to look like you.

OlyaKatianina
OlyaKatianina

@maggie_b 

She has every right to be proud of her accomplishments. If you can't handle someone's success story without the "how dare she be successful and proud of it", then you are weak and pathetic. sorry, that's the truth. actually, I'm not sorry. That's the truth.  

Joceythompson
Joceythompson

@maggie_b Your Samoan friend is more than likely healthy, no one is fat shaming healthy people... But unfortunately most the obese make excuses and do nothing about it... And then we are the bad guys because we "fat shamed" for not accepting the obese? It's a health risk! Choosing to stay obese and unhealthy comes with not only health risks, but rude/truthful statements, that they know exist and will fall victim to. And furthermore, she does not once say that everybody needs to look like her, my bet is she has never once fat shamed, especially to someone who is "big boned" but very much healthy. We need more fit people to be proud of themselves and express how EASY it is to exercise to stop this ridiculous "fat acceptance movement."

dickwr
dickwr

Good article. Anything that encourages people to eat better and to exercise is good.


Tabithaaa
Tabithaaa

Definitely on point about the obesity epidemic - to which I am a member of unfortunately. That being said, I actually feel sorry for Maria. 

Speaking of "un-healthy", another marker of an "un-healthy" self-esteem is feeling the need to 'level' with others by imposing a self-inflated superiority. While my body is no where near the fabulous physical condition as Maria's, I can very well inflate my three degrees and great job as a metric of my success. I can very easily express my true confidence in what I have achieved and contributed to society - in my own way. I can also very easily point to the STEM crisis that women are facing and how young girls are being dissuaded from science and mathematics fields in lieu of taking their clothes off, like, *cough* ahem. I can very easily question Maria's willpower in not becoming highly educated and making use of opportunities to advance her life outside of posting photoshopped pictures and being a kept woman. She very clearly lacks the intellect and brain power to do anything of substance with her life besides popping out babies and blogging about how people are "mean" to her. See how I sound? Like a self-absorbed, egotistical witch. Notice the parallels.

If Maria was really passionate and "cared" about the obesity epidemic, she would would be doing something about it, in her own way. She would be offering free nutrition classes and training to those disadvantaged people who may or may not know how to go about cooking healthier for their families. She would be tirelessly lobbying and writing about eliminating corn subsidies - which is where high-fructose corn syrup and other chemically manufactured by-products are derived. She would be passionately discussing the food desert epidemic in inner cities where access to fresh fruits and veggies are limited. But she doesn't. She doesn't have the brain capacity, psycho-social understanding, nor empathy level to even comprehend doing so. I am passionate about having young girls in STEM, and as such, I host free coding workshops with inner city youths - not shame them for not knowing arithmetic because their schools have failed them.

You all accept fat-shaming and cloak it under the guise of wanting a "healthier" society. That is complete and utter BS. You don't care if Joe blow down the street smokes his life away, and you also don't care about a morbidly obese person. So you and Maria. save. it. 

Tabithaaa
Tabithaaa

@ChrisGraves thanks will do :)

Aelfgifu
Aelfgifu

@TabithaaaYou've really missed the point of this article and inserted your own personal issues into it. Go back and actually read what she says before you attack her for perceived slights that just aren't there.


This is a well-reasoned, well-researched article full of valid points and references. She insults no one. If you find it personally offensive, then that says more about your mental attitude than hers.

LolaMontez2
LolaMontez2

@Tabithaaa I agree with you and you don't have to be fat to see that Maria is being conceited, bragging and trying to make other people feel bad about themselves.


I'd be a lot more impressed if I had read about how Maria had helped some of her pregnant girlfriends lose weight, by taking them to the gym or on walks with her. Instead, all she can do is pose in a bikini, trying to solicit compliments.