Fit Pride Isn’t ‘Hate Speech’

Despite its bullying, the "fat acceptance" movement is bad for our health and bad for kids

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Will a “real woman” please stand up? In the age of Photoshop, plastic surgery and celebrity idolatry, it seems women are constantly debating what is considered a “real” woman. And, as I found out recently when I posted a picture of myself looking fit and healthy in workout clothes with my three sons (playfully asking the question “What’s your excuse?”), apparently I don’t count. My voice as an apparently nonreal woman counts so little, in fact, that Facebook recently banned me temporarily from the site — shutting down my account for almost three days for supposedly violating the site’s terms of service — after a number of users flagged a post of mine venting about the damaging culture of fat acceptance. After my post had garnered thousands of likes, comments and shares, these users apparently reported what I wrote as “hate speech.”

While I accept Facebook’s explanation that the post was pulled down automatically, as can happen when users flag content as offensive, it’s amazing to me that a company that hosts so much conversation and debate isn’t far more proactive about making sure that controversial views don’t get squelched on its network. It’s also amazing, frankly, that it took such a long time to get reinstated. Most disturbing, however, is that we now apparently live in a culture where other people deliberately try to — and feel entitled to — censor speech they dislike by labeling it hateful.

Have we really created a society so sensitive and weak that we cry “hate speech” whenever someone points out the fine line we’re walking as a nation by promoting a healthy body image above actual health? Has the growing movement promoting “fat acceptance” and even “fat pride” gone so far that now we need a countervailing movement promoting “fit pride”?

We may just. Apparently, in America today, the only “real” women are the overweight. And, of course, to some extent that’s true. Despite the media’s fixation on models and thin actresses, the majority of Americans do not reflect the extreme thinness promoted in ads, magazines and TV shows. America is overwhelmingly overweight. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), over two-thirds of Americans above the age of 20 are overweight or obese. Roughly 18% of kids are obese and 30% are overweight, according to the CDC. Our obesity crisis accounts for 21% of our health care spending, according to a study in the Journal of Health Economics — roughly $190 billion a year. If we continue at our pace, by 2030 nearly half of Americans will be obese.

(MORE: The Fat-Acceptance Movement)

But we’re still prone to denial.

A study published recently in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology found that 1 in 4 overweight women thinks she’s thin, an understandable misperception given that being overweight has become so common. We’ve encouraged acceptance of this new normal by literally making room for our heavier culture. Often termed “vanity sizing,” what was once a “size 14” 30 years ago is now a “size 8.” You will find fashions accommodating young girls with large midsections at any clothing store. Popular chain stores that don’t accommodate are criticized and find themselves the targets of campaigns by fat-acceptance advocates — as was the case for Abercrombie & Fitch earlier this year.

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Overweight women are now standing up (often half-naked) in defiance, exclaiming: “I have a beautiful ‘curvy’ body” and “This is what a real woman looks like.” These campaigns send a message that being overweight is normal. Well, plenty of things are normal that shouldn’t be. It is normal to eat fast food. It is normal to play video games all day. It is normal to not exercise. It is normal to have a family member with diabetes. It is normal to gain more than the recommended 35 lb. (16 kg) during pregnancy.

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Being overweight is now normal; being at a healthy weight is not. Does one’s body define how healthy someone is? Not always — but in most circumstances, yes. New research just out in the Annals of Internal Medicine casts serious doubt on those often touted studies saying you can be fit and fat; according to the study, as summarized by TIME, “metabolically healthy obese participants had a higher risk of dying earlier or having heart-related problems than those who were normal weight and also metabolically healthy.”

Constant campaigns promoting self-acceptance and embracing one’s curves are placing the psychological need for a positive body image ahead of health. When you normalize a problem you create complacency. After all, you can’t fix a problem if you don’t see a problem.

Sure, the majority of women in America are now overweight or obese, but does that make the women who are of healthy weight not as “real” as the women whose images are strewn around in body-acceptance campaigns?

Have we accepted this new normal to the point that being a healthy everyday individual shatters the self-images of overweight people who think it’s impossible to become fit without Photoshop, plastic surgery or a personal trainer?

(MORE: You Can’t Be Fit and Fat)

A new minority of healthy people are stepping out of the shadows and showing that you can be successful by following the Surgeon General’s guidelines: exercising daily, eating nutritious meals and gaining no more than the recommended pregnancy weight. We shouldn’t be condemned. Demonstrating possibilities in one’s personal health should not be defined as promoting bullying, fat shaming or gloating.

However, in this new normal, being healthy is shocking. We’ve become a trophy-for-each-kid kind of culture. We don’t want to applaud those who follow the rules, do their homework and achieve their personal goals. It’s easier to say someone is a bad parent or a bad person (as people said about me after I posted my picture) than it is to take personal responsibility for why you choose not to make health a priority.

When people shame healthy and fit individuals for perpetuating an “unattainable” body image, they’re also dismissing the real health benefits that fit bodies represent. After all, healthy people breed healthy children, and healthy children create a healthier future. Why shouldn’t that be celebrated?

So, let’s set the record straight. There’s the normal, overweight woman. There’s the photoshopped fake woman — and then there’s an array of real women.

I, Maria Kang, am a real woman — and I’ve stood up. It’s not hate speech to be fit and proud.

Kang is a freelance writer and founder of Fitness Without Borders. She blogs at MariaKang.com. The views expressed are solely her own.

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Liveyourlife
Liveyourlife

First off I can say that I was fit and I now try to keep a healthy lifestyle, however, I can say that it made me more shallow in the past. For instance I would only date girls who were fit, had small abs, etc. the girls were like this too in the gym. Wouldn't even give some guys that were pretty awesome a chance just because they didn't work out ALL THE TIME and would eat pizza, but these guys also lived a healthy, happy life. I am 35 and I can honestly say that being fit wasn't always fun for me. Even as a guy I felt that pressure that I had to stay fit and had to look good all the time. I felt like I couldn't even eat one slice of pizza. I knew the girls at my gym would freak if they ate carbs and such, but my mind wasn't healthy. I mean I would always judge too many people and all, if my girlfriends didn't "look" like how I wanted, I would dump them. As I grew older, I realized that all I wanted was a girl who was nice, great personality, didn't obsess over her weight, could have fun, actually eat something, yes she ate pizza or ice cream sometimes. But she also would eat other healthy foods as well and loved to be outdoors and liked to run just for the fun of it, not to stay in shape or please others. And get this, she actually was a size 12, but she looked nice and took care of her body. Not by working out all the time to stay in shape. She would just have fun with life and didn't worry about things. She knew she was healthy and happy. I guess what I'm trying to say is people judge too quickly and any one who doesn't seem "fit" isn't fit to you. Well I can say that i am guilty of doing that to so many people, because people don't have to do hardcore workouts, or at the gym daily to be fit. I think it's good to be healthy on the inside as well as spiritually, yes it could look "hot" on the outside, but when it comes down to it as you're ready to settle down and have a wife and be happy. Looks really won't matter anymore, you loved them then and you'll still love them now. I love my wife. She's beautiful, happy, and healthy, even if she's not thin like almost all the girls. She was overall HEALTHY and she showed it mentally as well.

SamIam3
SamIam3

Queer Kissing Is Disgusting...  How Is That Hate Speech???

joeblaze
joeblaze

Thanks, Maria Kang.  With my partner having our second child in in a few weeks, I am glad I can point her in the direction of your motivational poster.  Then if she hasn't lost all the baby weight AND gotten to be as skinny and attractive as you (lose another 10-15lbs below her starting weight) in 2 years - I don't have to feel bad about leaving her.  Since obviously it's because she has too many excuses and why would I want to be with something who makes excuses.  Your no apology tactics will go over really well during the divorce as it's obviously the best thing to do to help her be healthy and fit.  Accepting her would be wrong as I have learned from this article.  You make it easier for men to have the young attractive women we obviously deserve.  And it's totally not sexist because it comes from a woman, right?  

louise34
louise34

anyone that is overweight and saying they can't lose the weight for whatever reason is using excuses, period!

gallivanter
gallivanter

Ms Kang is right that her comments are not at the level of hate speech, but I see nothing in her defensively penned article that shows she has an accurate understanding of weight issues in America today. Perhaps she should read some of the articles in TIme itself, such as the headline showing how nearly half of Americans live paycheck to paycheck and that one in five households exist upon a financial precipice.  Ms. Kang might learn that glib statements about how easy it is for everyone to understand good nutrition and to exercise shows a ignorance of the reality of lives lived by much of this overweight demographic. Nutrition and exercise are low down on the list when people are working two or more jobs, caring for children or elderly family members and still barely making the rent. The proportion of overweight or obese in America correlates directly with socio-economic status. Perhaps if Ms. Kang were to travel to some of the "most overweight" states and to see what healthy food offerings there are (or aren't) and what poor standard of living people exist in, she would understand that nobody is okay with being overweight, or happy or just too lazy to fix it.

If Ms. Kang wishes to comment upon weight issues in America she needs to educate herself on the causation and challenges that people she is criticizing face. Her personal experience of being formerly chubby, losing weight and getting fit with the means, support and time to do so isn't enough to make her an authority on this challenging and complex issue.

AprilDamascoHarkness
AprilDamascoHarkness

This Maria chic won lots of bikini contest and pageants before her pregnancies so the chic was ALREADY beautiful. And I've seen her before pics when she was "bigger" lol. She still looked great. I am not impressed. Now if she was 300 lbs and did that...yeah, but the woman was a model prior. She knows what to do and how to do it. She wasn't ignorant. So yes, not impressed one iota. 





LolaMontez2
LolaMontez2

Where to begin, Maria? First off, your brag photo was in very poor taste. Not your fit body -- that's fine, I am glad you lost the baby weight from THREE pregnancies in less than three years so dramatically. 


But bragging about it to others is tasteless. Let me clue you in: it's better for people to come to YOU and say "omigod, you look wonderful!" rather than trolling for compliments, complete with photos of you in revealing bikinis.


Asking people "what's your excuse" is cruel and insensitive, too -- would you post a picture to a poor person, of your own Lexus and McMansion and ask THEM "what's your excuse (for not having these luxuries)"????


That YOU could lose baby weight does NOT mean another person with lifelong obesity issues (and perhaps contributing health problems like hypothyroidism) can achieve what you did. 


For starters, it is highly unlikely that you were EVER obese or had an over-eating issue. You were PREGNANT, not fat. Your pregnancy resolved with the birth of your children. That is not remotely the same as lifelong obesity -- perhaps being in the womb of a diabetic mothers, or overfed as a child (factors beyond anyone's control). Once a person is ALREADY FAT, there is very little that medical science -- OR exercise OR strenuous dieting -- can do to change that.


Obesity has been researched and studied more than cancer or heart disease. Believe me, the scientists who figure out a "cure" or even a halfway successful treatment, would be billionaires overnight. Yet the preponderance of research shows that obesity is intractable -- that it does NOT respond to starvation dieting (not for long!) and it does not respond to exercise, nor to a combination of the two. Sure you can lose some weight temporarily, but the fat cells remain and they will cue your metabolism to slow down in response to less food and more activity.


This is SCIENCE, Maria -- not just opinion from people who hate fatties, or guys who have humiliated their fat ex-girlfriends, or have their own eating disorders (anorexia, dysmorphia, orthorexia, bulimia, etc.). In short: stop bragging on yourself. It's cheap and tasteless. (BTW: no I am not fat and never have been.)

VincentHui
VincentHui

Holy SHXT THIS WOMAN SPOKE THE TRUTH!!  People can only "play victim" and complain about everyone else for so long.  Failure acceptance is what failed America.  C+ is good?  No, it only meant you learned half of what you were supposed to.  An "A" is required!  It is YOUR fault for being fat, not everyone else'.  And surely not the people that TELL you to be healthy.  Wake up America.

DanM
DanM

Maria Kang's opinion is rational and informed. Her nutrition and exercise habits are an example of the lifestyle choices that should be practiced by the average person. One lifestyle aspect that must change is the spectator sports culture. On any Sunday from September to January, millions of Americans will immobilize themselves while watching NFL games. They will consume excessive amounts of high-calorie foods and transform themselves into the perfect customers for erectile dysfunction and cholesterol drugs - both of which are heavily advertised during football games. A one-hour walk on a beautiful autumn day is usually not a consideration for these folks. They always choose sedentary activities that are unnatural and damaging. Go for a walk ? Forget it. They can't miss that 4th and 1 play.


Responsible adults like Maria Kang should be congratulated and praised for choosing sensible nutrition and exercise habits.

GabrielBelthir
GabrielBelthir

I am a big person. However, this is not me telling my story. Just thought I'd start there.


"Fat-shaming" isn't okay. Making someone turn to eating disorders and botched surgeries because they can't even get a decent job without having their bodies and lives criticized is not okay.


"Fit-shaming" is also not okay. Turning a person who's chosen to make health a priority into a perceived psycho is not okay.


"Gym-shaming" is a thing, believe it or not. Fit people and fat people both being shamed because they don't have a sculpted body is not okay. 


The truth is, people, we as human beings are ALWAYS going to obsess over our bodies. It's part of our natural programming to present the most viable possible genetic material. And those norms always change, though this is the first time in history it's backed up by science.


We over-generalize in many ways. A fat person will tell you they don't know what they're doing wrong. (Ye Gods, I certainly don't.) I'm certain there's things I should be doing, but I can point to years in my life where I did those things...and nothing changed. There are a thousand reasons that overweight/obese people exist, each different for each body. A fit person will tell you that each body is different, requiring a different and customized routine to achieve fitness. 


So. Bigger folk, stop it. We know we're unhealthy. Either we chose it, or we didn't. Embrace the right part of the "fat acceptance" and realize that it's okay to be uncomfortable with where you are - it's NOT okay to hate yourself. Love yourself enough to know what you want out of life and pursue it.


Fit folk, stop it. We also know you've somehow found it in yourself to be fit and trim and healthy. Allow me to be the first to celebrate that. Stop trying to take sides and start helping. Don't be angry with fat-acceptance people. They want to stop seeing the terrible consequences of humankind's body obsession. Fitness has to be both mental and physical - otherwise you end up with 'fit' people who end up with dysmorphia or another terrifying place in their heads.


This isn't about sides. It's about the fact that the one word these all have in common is 'shame'. Shame is not okay. In any direction. Stop it.

maggie_b
maggie_b

 For someone who is supposedly NOT fat-shaming, you are still writing in a fat-shaming way. 


For example your assumption that all fat people ... eat fast food; play video games all day; do not exercise; and have diabetes is a perfect example of fat-stereotyping which is part of fat-shaming.

Then there was the suggestion that body image acceptance isn't as important as a healthy body. Why should they be mutually exclusive? Why can't people be healthy both physically and emotionally? Why should people be made to feel ashamed because they are a larger size than you? I have a friend who is of Samoan/Maori heritage and despite her healthy diet, weight and lifestyle, is still quite a large girl. She is built that way because of her genetic heritage. And yet she has been body-shamed for so long now that she is uncomfortable weighing sleeveless clothing or anything slightly revealing. Even were she to become anorexic, she would never be a small girl, because of her bone structure. But that's the kind of pressure that's out there in society - that's why people are pushing for body/fat acceptance.

And c'mon Maria, at least be honest, you didn't "playfully ask the question “What’s your excuse?” There was no playfulness in that. Be honest enough to admit that it was outright attempt at shaming and humiliation. You are deliberately trying to down-play this and make out you are the poor, little victim.


On the one hand you say you were 'playfully' asking the question, and then you contradict yourself later by suggesting that your views are controversial (Facebook). So which is it? Playful or controversial?


If you were really honest with yourself (and everyone else) Maria, you would admit this was simply about your pride:
- First it was pride in your body and your fitness. - Then your pride was hurt because people were offended at your comments and wanted them removed. - And you are still being prideful here because you are now trying to make out that you are the victim, and will not accept that it's ok for people to feel comfortable with their bodies and that we all don't have to look like you.

dickwr
dickwr

Good article. Anything that encourages people to eat better and to exercise is good.


Tabithaaa
Tabithaaa

Definitely on point about the obesity epidemic - to which I am a member of unfortunately. That being said, I actually feel sorry for Maria. 

Speaking of "un-healthy", another marker of an "un-healthy" self-esteem is feeling the need to 'level' with others by imposing a self-inflated superiority. While my body is no where near the fabulous physical condition as Maria's, I can very well inflate my three degrees and great job as a metric of my success. I can very easily express my true confidence in what I have achieved and contributed to society - in my own way. I can also very easily point to the STEM crisis that women are facing and how young girls are being dissuaded from science and mathematics fields in lieu of taking their clothes off, like, *cough* ahem. I can very easily question Maria's willpower in not becoming highly educated and making use of opportunities to advance her life outside of posting photoshopped pictures and being a kept woman. She very clearly lacks the intellect and brain power to do anything of substance with her life besides popping out babies and blogging about how people are "mean" to her. See how I sound? Like a self-absorbed, egotistical witch. Notice the parallels.

If Maria was really passionate and "cared" about the obesity epidemic, she would would be doing something about it, in her own way. She would be offering free nutrition classes and training to those disadvantaged people who may or may not know how to go about cooking healthier for their families. She would be tirelessly lobbying and writing about eliminating corn subsidies - which is where high-fructose corn syrup and other chemically manufactured by-products are derived. She would be passionately discussing the food desert epidemic in inner cities where access to fresh fruits and veggies are limited. But she doesn't. She doesn't have the brain capacity, psycho-social understanding, nor empathy level to even comprehend doing so. I am passionate about having young girls in STEM, and as such, I host free coding workshops with inner city youths - not shame them for not knowing arithmetic because their schools have failed them.

You all accept fat-shaming and cloak it under the guise of wanting a "healthier" society. That is complete and utter BS. You don't care if Joe blow down the street smokes his life away, and you also don't care about a morbidly obese person. So you and Maria. save. it. 

Brains
Brains

She's beautiful she looks great!

I'm going to say this, this article totally contradicts what we're aiming towards as a society. Especially with the little "Obedience, ableism, this is right and that is wrong" part towards the very end. It's perfectly fine to celebrate your health and fitness but DO IT WITHOUT THE FAT SHAMING. There are plenty of people who have their own aspiration of fitness and it doesn't involve abs, a six pack and thigh muscles. A lot of people are content with their bodies not falling into the superficial realm of what fitness is suppose to look like.

The fact that we still have to discuss having respect for someone else's body, existence and space it's upsetting and annoying. We have not evolved much at all.


I can't enjoy a fitness blog without somebody placing a picture of some random woman, because most of the time it's women (this is where sexism and fap phobia intersects, always has) dissecting her weight and body as a reason to get a total gym body. Then you have all types of men, even one's who are overweight themselves joining in with the angry dude bro "No fat chicks allowed" bashing that has nothing to do with health. 

They just want to get their eye candy fix like the rest of society, and need their bigotry reassured. Women's bodies shouldn't be a on stage to be up for judgment all the time, fit or not. We don't owe anyone anything but somehow most people think we do.


Fitness and great health is not exclusive to thin women or women who look like her. All women of all sizes enjoy taking care of themselves. I have a list of blogs I follow that prove this. If you have a fat and fit parent you will have a fat and fit child just that simple.Saying big= unhealthy and small= healthy is harmful itself. That's why you can see thin people posting pics of large pizzas, sodas and snacks and people laughing it all, calling "Eating like a fat girl". It's ignorant and unscientific.

There are a plethora of blogs dedicated to fitness for all body types and yet crap like this, debates like this still exist. Once society can place aside their infatuation with women's bodies and wanting them to shrink them as small as they can't them, their brains can finally function probably and understand good health is good health no matter the body it's in. People "CHOOSE" to have a certain body type to go along with their fitness, so let women CHOOSE to not want a body like hers and live their healthy lives.



A lot of fat phobic people are mad and angry that people won't conform to make them feel comfortable in their fat phobic spaces. This is common human behavior, you shame/alienate a group because your privilege allows you to, please expect that group to retaliate and defend themselves. You can preach this "It's not a hate speech" all you want to but it's not going to make the fat phobia and body shaming in it go away.

If we want to promote health and fitness to our kids, we promote to all of our kids by promoting in all body shapes, sizes and types. Plain and simple. Other than that I see this article as an excuse for fat phobes to vent about not being able to feel comfortable being fat phobic.

Why is the hatred, discrimination, and social shaming of larger bodies in the most foul way still accepted?

FamkeStewart
FamkeStewart

I can already hear the wailing of angry Tumblrites...

You keep on with your fit self, lady. Though they will try (because it helps them feel better about themselves), don't let anyone discount your hard work.

You see how hard they try to bring you down? Looking up your personal information, trying to get you banned? It's jealousy and shame. But nowadays, instead of taking personal responsibility, we all find someone else to blame. Just slap a couple of buzz words on there, and suddenly you're a persecuted minority being bullied by everyone else.

But yes, that's how much you accomplished. It's not because of any "hate speech". There is legitimate hate speech all over the net that people don't give a rats ass about. But you look good and DID something, and that makes people angry. THAT'S narcissism.

sea.hunt
sea.hunt

Unfortunately, this article has nothing to do with being a "real woman" or the so-called "fat acceptance movement". Nobody is denying that being fit has a positive and healthy impact on one's life. Yes, body image is an issue that many women struggle with. Yes, there has been a recent counter-culture movement against the media-propelled emaciated model stereotype that I believe has driven this ardent "body image acceptance" movement. However, the problem is not "fit pride = hate speech" - that's a complete misrepresentation. 

The problem is that Maria Kang is self-absorbed and posted a picture of herself in scantly-clad workout clothes with an arrogant and condescending "wanna-be" meme, while inappropriately blasting it over social media. While I do believe our culture has taken a rather staunch, conservative stance on "political correctness", this is a classic representation of someone who is self-absorbed, insecure and abusing social media privileges (well, there are none, apparently.)

What is incredible is that this was seen as worthy content for a Time Ideas article. I expect more, intellectually and ethically, from Time writers/editors. Maria Kang can be proud of her body. She can be proud that she is a mother of three beautiful children. However, a narcissist's ignorant social media blasts deserve no such attention in a featured editorial on a premiere international news site.

I think Maria Kang missed out on a real opportunity to inspire an honest conversation about modern-day, women's body image issues.

jc72
jc72

I feel like this women has the right message but going at it the wrong way.  First she put a picture of herself that has been edited to hide her excess skin and stretchmarks. She should show them proudly and not make it seem like she looks like that because she doesn't. She has or had bulimia and anorexia, makes it seem in her facebook like she still might have some issues regarding her bulimia and anorexia. Why not dedicate some time to talk about being underweight or bulimic she has lived through that. has never been obese. so why not dedicate your time to an issue you personally have had experienced and supposedly you have overcome.I just don't see why her kids are part of her facebook pictures they are shirtless why?  Their is a lot of perverts in the world some things like her kids pictures should be kept private, and not be exploited and that is exactly what she did in her picture of her whats your excuse? Why put pictures of your kids? how sad that she is trying to motivate complete strangers and not her own mother i would dedicate my time to my families health and if i had any time left over i would dedicated to strangers fitness it makes it seem like she gave up on her own mother in account. Being over weight does not make you unhealthy the perfect example is the Iron Man competition how many thick or overweight people finished not just anyone can finish such a hard competition you have to be healthy and fit to finish. and she was judging that hot ass women who took a selfie 4 days after giving birth she judges fat people women who are actually better looking then her not cool maria keng fix your issues before you want to fix someone elses. excuse all the typos in a bit of a hurry

Randi
Randi

an·o·rex·i·a

ˌanəˈreksēə/noun
  1. 1.a lack or loss of appetite for food (as a medical condition).

Ms. Kang is a former anorexia patient.  Of COURSE she can "do it," if by "doing it," she means keeping even a meager amount of weight on her bones.  Bravo to her for her personal success in this matter -- however, let's face reality -- it's much easier for her to look slim than the other 95% of us who have never suffered from this form of mental illness.  Consider the source, America!  Feel sorry for this empathy-challenged woman who has not learned that showing-off is never inspiring or attractive. 

bul·ly1ˈbo͝olē/verbgerund or present participle: bullying
  1. 1.use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants."a local man was bullied into helping them"synonyms:persecuteoppresstyrannizebrowbeatharasstormentintimidate,strong-armdominate;

Her message does fit the definition of bullying. It appears that she values attention and fame (and money, if that's what the perceived gain is from said attention) more than helping others, or she would have changed her message to one that actually helps people past their own obstacles without derision, which for obvious reasons repulses people rather than attracts them. 


vanessarachelxo
vanessarachelxo

There are fewer things that prove to me how over-sensitive, obsessed w/ political correctness  and just in denial Americans have become when it comes to their obesity epidemic. There was absolutely noting wrong with Maria's post, nor this article. It is impossible to have an honest dialogue w/ them bc they're too busy arguing the tone than the content or making excuse after excuse after excuse. This is what the average convo looks like when you try to talk to them about their weight problem:

"I can't lose weight, I don't have time." 

"The average American watches more than 5 hrs a tv/day, surely you can find the time there."

"Well, I can't cook, I don't know how/I don't have money to learn/buy a cookbook/ nobody taught me/etc."

"You're on the internet right now; perhaps rather than make comment after comment about how you can't lose weight, you could read one 1,070,000,000 articles that come on when google "how to cook."

"But I don't have money to buy healthy groceries."

"And yet, the average American spends $3000/year just on junk food alone-that money can't go towards healthier produce?"

"Yeah, but, produce is more expensive bc government subsidizes corn instead. Have you seen how expensive broccoli is?"

"It's cheaper than the McDonald's you're eating right now. Besides, you can buy frozen veggies and they're just as healthy for less than half the price."

"Well, I didn't know that bc my parents never graduated high school and they didn't teach me that."

"I'm teaching you now. So why don't you go to the store and buy yourself some frozen veggies?"

"I can't, I don't have running shoes, I would have if the government subsidized athletic equipment."

"I give up, you're impossible."

"Stop possibility-shaming me."


johnmadden1994
johnmadden1994

maria kang was an overweight fat girl in high school that got picked on
by her classmates. all the asian and filipino boys that she liked never
liked her back because she was a fat overweight chubby girl.. Now that
she is older her inner child has pushed her to be a buff lady that wants
to attack older woman. its ridiculous she says how woman should look a
certain way and they shouldnt be happy because they arent fit. she loves
all this attention..being a troll She had 3 kids at a young age and is debating with woman that is a lot older than her. The
people she is debating on tv are in their 40s and she is barely 30 what
is your escuse that you cant have 3 babies in 3 years you gotta be a gym
rat to be able to have that much sex to get 3 kids before you are 30.
..wayyy too much media attention. The most importatnt thing for a woman
is to be happy and if a woman is overweight and loves lingerie than she
is pretty. Maria needs to stop taking pictures of herself she has way
too many pictures with her with a camera in her hand. I personally think
she wears too much makeup. has fake dyed hair and needs to stop
working out so she can have some breast to breastfeed. shes buff to the
point its disgusting. what if someone told her woman should not be buff like a doode ?? the maria kang in highschool was 3 times better.
She was bullied in valley high school . that is the reason why she is
attacking all these bigger woman because she was picked on back then for
being a big fat lady..

courtneytown
courtneytown

I think it's great to be proud of getting fit--I had to do so myself in order to stop a autoimmune disorder that was eating my bones away. But I don't attack those with the same disorder who haven't done the same. Better to be nice about it and more will listen. If I had a "What's your excuse?" attitude towards those with the same disorder, it wouldn't have been accepted. People aren't weak or dumb because they are not fit, they just have a lot on their plate that no one but them can understand. There's an uncountable amount of factors that cause a person to become the person he or she has become. We just don't know what those factors are, and it's why the most successful people in transformative fitness avoid insulting people as Kang does, weather her insults are intentional or not. Rubbing it in their faces will only cause a negative reaction and only shows ignorance, as has been going on with this campaign. Stop insulting those who don't live the same lifestyle as you and you will cause less controversy, unless controversy is what you are seeking. 

103
103

"You will find fashions accommodating young girls with large midsections at any clothing store." Your right Ms. Kang, those fat girls should be forced to go naked, maybe then they will go out jogging and loose that extra weight. The photo isn't offensive, but after reading your rant, I find myself thinking that you may well be. 

turtlespeed
turtlespeed

There really is no argument.What people who are not really healthy don't understand is a very simple fact.....Eating and exercising  to the point of being "healthy" makes one feel very very good! It fills one with energy and focus, to do what one wants to do in life.It gives one self confidence. I come from a family of very obese people. It breaks my heart to not only watch them die from this... but also to see how miserable they really are inside, how ashamed they are , how unhappy and angry they are.. about this! I find it ironic that healthy people are being called haters. Of course there are self righteous people about this, as there are about everything. But simple common sense tells us who is really unhappy!  So please don't be unhappy with the author if she did not  express herself well enough to you... In trying to say how happy being healthy makes her feel. And her wanting to share that with you.

NaomiJChambers
NaomiJChambers

@SamIam3 Faulty Analogy. Your comment about homosexual kissing has no direct relevance to this topic. 

NaomiJChambers
NaomiJChambers

@joeblaze Maria never told you to leave your wife if she cannot lose the weight. 


You are making a choice to strawman her argument. What she is saying, is that your wife should not invent any excuses to justify obesity. 



NaomiJChambers
NaomiJChambers

@LolaMontez2 She has every right to brag about her accomplishments. She should be proud of it. 


And you sound like a Bitter, angry woman - jealous of Maria. 



Tanya_x93
Tanya_x93

@LolaMontez2Whatever you're sprouting out is not Science. Obesity is the leading cause for all medical issues on going within America. It's quite sad really because it's something that can be treated so easily (I am not saying every single obese person got there because of over-eating but 2/3 has) So what's the 2/3 of the the population's excuse for not eating healthier or exercising. Now, this is the part where you're probably going to sprout out the usual 'But I can't afford a gym and all these healthy foods'. If you can afford to pay $10 for fast food or pay $10 for ready made meals, that isn't anyone;s problem but yours. I feel no pity for obese people.

What you seem to be missing out of Maria's whole speech is that she is looking after her body through exercise, eating healthy and generally looking after it even through pregnancy. You don't know her whole eating history you can't make the assumption that 'It is highly unlikely that you were EVER obese or had an over-eating issue'. I agree 100% with Maria and it's people like you deluded by such things like Health At Every Size. I will never fall into my old routine of over-eating ever again. I was 235lbs (Nice and unhealthy) and now I'm 130lbs. And woah, how shocking my I didnt ' lose some weight temporarily' nor have my' fat cells remained to  cue my metabolism to slow down in response to less food and more activity'. It's a lifestyle choice and you must be willing to put in the effort.


The main idea for HAES was to advocate heatlhy bodies and not for obese women to flaunt their bodies saying how proud they are of it. Because being obese or even overweight is NOT healthy and there is a simple 'cure'. Eat healthy and Exercise.



OlyaKatianina
OlyaKatianina

@maggie_b 

She has every right to be proud of her accomplishments. If you can't handle someone's success story without the "how dare she be successful and proud of it", then you are weak and pathetic. sorry, that's the truth. actually, I'm not sorry. That's the truth.  

LolaMontez2
LolaMontez2

@Tabithaaa I agree with you and you don't have to be fat to see that Maria is being conceited, bragging and trying to make other people feel bad about themselves.


I'd be a lot more impressed if I had read about how Maria had helped some of her pregnant girlfriends lose weight, by taking them to the gym or on walks with her. Instead, all she can do is pose in a bikini, trying to solicit compliments. 

Aelfgifu
Aelfgifu

@TabithaaaYou've really missed the point of this article and inserted your own personal issues into it. Go back and actually read what she says before you attack her for perceived slights that just aren't there.


This is a well-reasoned, well-researched article full of valid points and references. She insults no one. If you find it personally offensive, then that says more about your mental attitude than hers.

funkytown
funkytown

@Brains you reasoning is too deep, not too deep to understand, but too deep to care about.

TheSuperAmanda
TheSuperAmanda

@sea.hunt And the picture was heavily retouched. She looks nothing like the photo. Great post. 


I've worked in fitness for over ten years and see Kang types all the time. They are unable to check their eating disorders and neuroses at the door.

charlesa100
charlesa100

@Randi you are commenting on her mental health in your remarks.  That much more fits the definition of bullying than anything she said.

fafrasdad
fafrasdad

@Randi She had bulimia, not anorexia. And mental illnesses are not easy in general-to learn to become healthy and treat your body right after bulimia, anorexia or BED, is hard but Maria did it, she overcame bulimia and treated her body right. She's not forcing anyone to read her posts and she isn't bully; maybe read that definition again and think harder...

brooklynite4321
brooklynite4321

@vanessarachelxo "Stop possibility-shaming me." Now THAT is funny. As for Maria Kang and all the haters and apologists and excuse-makers for obesity out there: I've said it before, I'll say it again -- Kang is healthy, outspoken, smart and smoking hot. No wonder so many people can't stand her, or her message. Good god, she's actually DOING something with her life. Grab the torches and pitchforks!

ChrisGraves
ChrisGraves

@johnmadden1994

so she was bullied and overcame that and became successful?

I fail to see the problem. Good for her for achieving something! She isn't "bullying" anyone, she is encouraging fat people to do the same as she did. But unfortunately fat people are unwilling to exercise or diet because they have psychological issues/laziness/gluttony,, so instead they attack Maria Kang to feel better about themselves =/

brooklynite4321
brooklynite4321

@johnmadden1994 Uhm. Your post is semi-literate, hard to follow, silly, and sounds perhaps even a little bit insane. Just sayin'.

Randi
Randi

@johnmadden1994 it's not her "inner child" that has pushed her -- she suffered from anorexia after high school.  She simply has an eating disorder/mental illness.


kechara
kechara

@courtneytown That's great that you could turn a negative into a positive. But I think the whole psychology of people not wanting to do what's good for them because they don't like how people word it to them and using THAT as an excuse to remain unhealthy is even worse. And the idea that we have to accommodate the self-loathing of such people is even more disgusting in my mind than their actual personal health problem.

CataclysmChild
CataclysmChild

@103 I think the part about that fact that irritated her was that they are accommodating overweight girls by lying to them about how big they are through vanity sizing.

jc72
jc72

@turtlespeed eating and exercising to the point of being healthy but why doesn't she talk about those who stop eating anorexia it goes both ways anorexia also kills and anorexic people feel the same way as obese people. Here the thing maria keng does not know how it feels to be obese but she does know how it feels to be anorexic and bulimic I just dont understand why she only speaks to the over weight.

Tabithaaa
Tabithaaa

@ChrisGraves thanks will do :)

DawbYaj
DawbYaj

@Randi @johnmadden1994 Anyone who is FIT must have an eating disorder!  HAHAHA, so dumb!  Jillian Michaels must have an eating disorder too!  WOW! (SARCASM)

ChrisGraves
ChrisGraves

@kechara @courtneytown


True kechara. the idea that someone could be so stubborn and bull-headed-ly stupid that they would decide to NOT lose weight and be healthy and save their very LIFE, simply because they "didn't like the way someone phrased it", is simply absurd and insane. If anybody that stupid really exists then god help them. The other 99.999% of people who use that as an excuse, well, are just grasping for excuses to use. That's all. If it wasn't the "tone of voice" or "the way they said it" then it would be something else.

fafrasdad
fafrasdad

@jc72 @turtlespeed She has personal experiences with obesity-her mother is obese. That's probably why she talks about overweight or obese. And America is mainly overwieght/obese. The fact that she was suffering from bulimia and faught it, might send a message to anorexic or bulimia sufferes that they can do it to; they can treat themselves right, they deserve to and can get healthy too. Maria is really encouraging health to everyone. 

jc72
jc72

@DawbYaj @Randi @johnmadden1994 she did have an eating disorder anyone who has had an eating disorder or has had family with eating disorder knows it a life long battle like alcoholism, drug addiction, and compulsive eating. she is not real open about this part of her life and that leads me to believe she is still struggling.